cpc28655 Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 I was asked by a coworker today if I thought I would ever get remarried. Considering the odd time and place to be asking me a question like that, I decided to use my typical wit, and told her that after considering my options that I felt it would be better to simply have my appendix put back in. Of course she asked my why, to which I replied, "Because if I am going to be in that much pain, I'm going to do it to myself!!!!" She told me that she took a little bit of offense to this remark. Of course I apologized (not intending to be offensive). It was only intended to be funny. Was it really that offensive. NOTE: There is no possible way this person could have any intrest in me. To tell you why would involve telling her business, which is not my place. Just trust me on this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EvaGina Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 Um, no, it wasnt offensive at all. If she was offended becuase SHE believes in the institution of marriage, then she is overly sensitive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
x_perfect_stranger_x Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 hahaha if someone said that to me I wouldnt be able to stop laughing! Everyone takes things different ways. Theres no offense in it UNLESS there is something behind her question. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kmartin85 Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 ???? what part of that was offensive..she asked and you answered honestly..who cares.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Locke2121 Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 In a minor way, yeah...well maybe...I think she was trying to be serious and saw you as a bit flippent. Hmmm, try this one next time a lady asks... "Get remarried? Hmm, I don't know. She would have to be rich of course, I need to be taken care of. And pretty, can't be looking bad if your going to hang with me.....by the way...how much do you earn?" If that doesn't give them the hint, and make them laugh, then they are way too serious and need to back off! Cause you can be sure, they have someone in mind and are zeroing in for the kill! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weeblie Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 I don't find it offensive at all. It's kind of funny. I'm not sure why she found that offensive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shes2smart Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 Huh. Maybe you should've said you were offended by her asking what's clearly a personal question when she's a co-worker. I mean, to some folks' way of thinking work is work and personal is personal and the two NEVER mix. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laboheme Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 I personally think what you said was quite funny! Come on, everybody knows that marriage isn't always easy...the least we can do is joke about it to lighten the mood! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thelonelydoll Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 I actually think it was more offensive to ask you the question in the first place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melrich Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 I'm another who can see nothing offensive in that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 I don't think it was offensive. I think it's a better response than just telling someone "that is a personal question!" I think making a joke out of it is kinder because then they can think to themselves, "oh, I shouldn't have asked them that." Clearly she wasn't that quick to catch on though.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cpc28655 Posted March 29, 2007 Author Share Posted March 29, 2007 ???? what part of that was offensive..she asked and you answered honestly..who cares.. Actually, I answered sarcastically. But, she got my point, lol. In a minor way, yeah...well maybe...I think she was trying to be serious and saw you as a bit flippent. Hmmm, try this one next time a lady asks... "Get remarried? Hmm, I don't know. She would have to be rich of course, I need to be taken care of. And pretty, can't be looking bad if your going to hang with me.....by the way...how much do you earn?" If that doesn't give them the hint, and make them laugh, then they are way too serious and need to back off! Cause you can be sure, they have someone in mind and are zeroing in for the kill! First, she has known me for 20 years, she had to know I'd say something silly. Second, that response just isn't my style, lol. Huh. Maybe you should've said you were offended by her asking what's clearly a personal question when she's a co-worker. I mean, to some folks' way of thinking work is work and personal is personal and the two NEVER mix. But I was not offended. I actually think it was more offensive to ask you the question in the first place. I don't think it was offensive, just a bit odd. Um, no, it wasnt offensive at all. If she was offended becuase SHE believes in the institution of marriage, then she is overly sensitive. That is what puzzles me. She is not normally like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lava Rocks Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 I don't personally find it offensive. Possibly she thought you were saying something negative about women in general? Like only women cause pain in marriage? If so, I think it's a stupid assumption that that's what you meant... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 are you dating someone right now? seriously seeing them? because otherwise, I think it is kind of a dumb question. if you don't have a serious gf right now, then how are you supposed to know if you will marry again? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aurian Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 Negativity about her sex? Kinda verges onto the "all women suck and cause pain!" point of view some men get (although some women get that about men too!). I see it as a joke, but the above is my idea of why she might have been offended. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honey Pumpkin Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 When I read the title, I thought YOU were asking if her question was offensive - which to be honest, I thought it was a little: too probing and too personal. None of her business. So maybe just say to her "You raised very sensitive issues for me, which I'd rather not discuss in the workplace" or something. Don't like the sound of her at all! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cpc28655 Posted March 30, 2007 Author Share Posted March 30, 2007 When I read the title, I thought YOU were asking if her question was offensive - which to be honest, I thought it was a little: too probing and too personal. None of her business. So maybe just say to her "You raised very sensitive issues for me, which I'd rather not discuss in the workplace" or something. Don't like the sound of her at all! not a sensitive issue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cpc28655 Posted March 30, 2007 Author Share Posted March 30, 2007 Negativity about her sex? Kinda verges onto the "all women suck and cause pain!" point of view some men get (although some women get that about men too!). I see it as a joke, but the above is my idea of why she might have been offended. If I wanted to say that, i would have come out and said it, lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wandering_Sword Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 I laughed at your response. I would have probably answered in the same manner too. I think that she was too sensitive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rikka Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 It gave me a good chuckle. Then again, I am an odd duck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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