Guys..what Would Make Me Stick In Your Mind??

[shikashika]

How long did you date and why did it end? (just curious)

 

 

We dated for about a year... I moved overseas so i ended it a few months before I knew I was going away.

 

I've had a few other guys do this too... a short-term guy, a fling (no surprise there) and a couple other boyfriends.

 

When one guy who did if after I only knew him for a short time, I just felt extremely flattered.. I really liked his boldness and directness (is there such a word?) of the email.

 

I don't think its a case of timing for me, but I think in cases where I liked it, its because I'm or was attracted to the guy.

 

If a guy I wasn't attracted to said that to me I'd just think he was acting a bit silly..but probably still eb flattered.. unless I was totally repulsed by the guy

[Batya33]

That's funny -for me, when I have had that happen with a man I was really attracted to early on it gave me a sinking feeling as in - well guess he doesn't see me as serious girlfriend/future wife material if he'd say something that sexually graphic early on. I was always right about that one. Romantic e-mails - sweet, flirty e-mails - that's great stuff. Graphic details would be a red flag /offend me.

[shikashika]

Yeah.. I find it a turn on... in fact if a guy never' talked dirty' or whatever you want to call it.. I would be more offended.

 

romantic sweet emails may be nice after being with someone for a while.. but if those are given to me too early on in the relationship I'd get a sinking feeling... I wouldn't want to hear about this early on in a relationship.

 

I want the guy I'm dating to have that sexual attraction to me.. and I want to hear about it! Even if its early on.

To me, it makes more sense to hear the dirty I-wanna-feel-your sweet type emails early on than a romantic oh-you-have beautiful-eyes'.. The latter just make me want to gag..

[Batya33]

Yes, me too definitely. Just not in a graphic e-mail or phone call early on. I love to hear that there is sexual attraction. I don't need to hear early on graphic descriptions such as the one posted by the OP. There is a time and a place and the OP's e-mail would not be appropriate in either case and I wouldn't like that it was cliche - would make me feel like he sent that to anyone he was dating early on.

 

I also don't like over the top romantic emails early on but an email that says "I had a lovely time with you and am looking forward to seeing you again on Saturday" is very nice. To each her own.

[shikashika]

yeah... isn't it good we all like different things in our relationships and that different things turn us on.. otherwise we'd all be fighting for the same guy / girl

[Boughs]

As long as he finds you attractive, it'll be on his mind.

[treefrogkate]

yeah... isn't it good we all like different things in our relationships and that different things turn us on.. otherwise we'd all be fighting for the same guy / girl

 

Haha, nicely said!

[CaptainPlanet]

It would stick in my mind and so would you. It is a Completely selfless and kind statement.