Kevin T Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 Let's say you were given two choices: A) You are ugly, but you get to be with the person of your dreams (whomever/whatever that means to you; you must have SOME idea of what this person would be like). Or B) You are attractive, but you are single (for whatever reason). So, the question is: Would you rather be ugly, but with an awesome person, or attractive, but single? Choose wisely now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DropToZero Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 (B) if I had to choose, and I'll keep it that way for now since I just got out of a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blue-eyedspacemonkey Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 I am a) Ugly, but with the most awesome person ever Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reluctant Rebuilder Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 I would choose A. I'm living B right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charley Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 I'll take the awesome GF without hesitation, but if she dumps me later, can I get my looks back? Can I get a refund? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin T Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 I'll take the awesome GF without hesitation, but if she dumps me later, can I get my looks back? Can I get a refund? No. But we'll assume that the dream girl (or guy) will not leave you because of your poor looks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cpc28655 Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 I can imagine that the person of most people's dreams would think they are attractive no matter what they looked like. So in a way, the question is a paradox. I honestly have no idea which I would choose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin T Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 I can imagine that the person of most people's dreams would think they are attractive no matter what they looked like. So in a way, the question is a paradox. I honestly have no idea which I would choose. Basically, yeah. It's a hypothetical situation, that I asked myself earlier today. Like to know what the consensus says, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily04 Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 I'm B) and alright I guess... sorta apathetic right now. But I don't think A) is much better. I'd rather have B) because I know I'll meet the right person eventually and being attractive has its benefits -- easier to get a job, negotiate your way out of things, etc... But either way, as long as you're happy and satisfied that's the most important. I am a perfectionist, so as my appearance is important to me...i'd go with B. I think less perfectionistic people would prob. choose A) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
real2 Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 I choose B) since Im young, and finding that one permanent special girl isn't on my list. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin T Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 I'd rather have B) because I know I'll meet the right person eventually and being attractive has its benefits -- easier to get a job, negotiate your way out of things, etc... trust me it has advantages. So I've heard. Anyway, interesting responses so far. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clementine orange Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 It's like asking "would you rather be rich or smart"? Wealth can disapear but if you are smart then you can always get more wealth! Lady Astor: Sir, you're drunk Winston Churchill: Yes, madam, I am drunk. But in the morning I will be sober and you will still be ugly. I choose "B" incidentally. The person of your dreams at 25 might not be the person of your dreams at 45 - then what do you do? You're ugly, it's as good as it gets. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin T Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 I see. I imagined most people would say A. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily04 Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 Kevin, just as a personal note btw -- you're not ugly, i've seen your pic. so this isn't a question that you *yourself* need to contemplate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dako Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 I'm more familiar with A than B. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin T Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 Kevin, just as a personal note btw -- you're not ugly, i've seen your pic. so this isn't a question that you *yourself* need to contemplate. lol I don't know about that... *points Lily in the direction of my thread in the Shyness forum* I have been thinking a lot about this question today, and I have an answer. And Dako... I saw that! You changed your answer... sort of!!! lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dako Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 I know a lady that nature was unkind to. She really lacks in looks, and is a brilliant, funny wonderful person. She often said she'd trade IQ points to be prettier. She married a doctor and is so happy she doesn't seem to worry anymore. She just wanted to be loved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin T Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 Exactly. I'd trade every wit about me for better looks. (Heck, I thought of asking the intelligence VS. looks question, but didn't.) So I understand where she was coming from. But once you meet someone who loves you for YOU, then looks no longer matter. If you already have someone great, and they are happy with you, why desire to be more attractive? Thus, despite my perfectionism or what-have-you, I would choose A myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charley Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 No. But we'll assume that the dream girl (or guy) will not leave you because of your poor looks. Ya, but there's any number of other reasons a woman might leave a guy. I mean I'd try to be a good BF, but there's no guarantees. Are you going to guarantee that she won't leave me period? Because that's the only way I'm going for it. Otherwise, I'll keep my looks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin T Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 What if I added on the stipulation that you must remain single? (Ah, but I couldn't. We all know there's more of a chance of a good looking person finding a good mate than an ugly one, don't we?) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charley Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 I'm B) and alright I guess... sorta apathetic right now. But I don't think A) is much better. I'd rather have B) because I know I'll meet the right person eventually and being attractive has its benefits -- easier to get a job, negotiate your way out of things, etc... But either way, as long as you're happy and satisfied that's the most important. I am a perfectionist, so as my appearance is important to me...i'd go with B. I think less perfectionistic people would prob. choose A) So you trade on your looks? Not cool. I'm always impressed with beautiful women who don't use it to gain unfair advantage (outside romance). They use their brains and hard work to get whatever they get in regard to job, negotiating, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin T Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 Actually, a smart woman will use EVERY advantage at her disposal. Ruthless, sure, but it's the 'Way of the Road.' lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charley Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 And Dako... I saw that! You changed your answer... sort of!!! lol You have to watch Dako closely because he's almost as shifty as I am. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily04 Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 i wouldn't trade my looks. i'm smart. i use that & looks to get my way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin T Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 Your confidence never fails to impress me, Lily. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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