quietgrl Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 Has anyone every dated a person who was mentally slow and ill? I was talking to an acquaintance on the phone today and he was telling me that one of the guys i wanted to ask out.He thinks he's "kinda" mentally slow and he also talks to himself.My acquaintance told me not to give this guy a dating chance.Would you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EvaGina Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 So... is he ~actually~ retarded or is he just a bit strange? There is a difference. If the guy needs help or assistance, then dating him may not be the best idea. However, if he is just strange, then whats the harm? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caterina Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 If I liked his aura. Some people aren't intelligent but they have a wise spirit about them that is warming/therapuetic. Although, I tend to be attracted to men I find interesting and intelligent. Also, if he was hot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laboheme Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 I think you shouldn't rule the guy out based on solely what your friend said. Just because your friend thinks that the guy is "kinda slow" doesn't mean that you'll find him to be that way. Maybe your friend is just impatient, who knows? And talking to himself doesn't necessarily indicate any kind of mental disability. I know plenty of people who will mutter something to themselves if they are under stress, or thinking out loud, or just trying to be funny. Yes, there is the possibility that he can't control his talking to himself, or that he does it in a creepy way (a friend once tried to set me up with someone who muttered spells under his breath!!!). But unless you get convincing evidence, I don't see why you shouldn't at least meet the guy and decide for yourself if he deserves a dating chance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cloud802 Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 Yeah, just give him a chance, try not to worry about what your friend said. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AwdreeHpburn Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 why not find out for yourself? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dako Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 I talk to myself all the time. He might not be slow, but just different. Without meeting him, how can you tell? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lion-Guy Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 This sounds like a good situation for a coffee date. Not too much involved and you get to talk a lot. I agree with laboheme, don't rule him out just based on what your friend thinks of him. IF you go there with those thoughts in your head, you will prob find fault in him someway. Keep an open mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skyjuice Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 Hi I talk to myself too. Part of the positive self talk practice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quietgrl Posted December 2, 2006 Author Share Posted December 2, 2006 I might as well reintroduce myself and see what happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yeawutever Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 I talked to myself at times and do tend to laugh at thing I remembered, nothing wrong with it. If you listen to what your friend says, you won't get to know him better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aurian Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 What does slow mean anyways? Does he talk slow? Maybe he is thinking over his thoughts before responding. Maybe he is too deep for his friend I dunno, I don't like hearsay much. Misinterpretations happen. I would rather find out for myself and judge for myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 Sometimes talking to yourself is the only way to have an intelligent conversation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
need2bme Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 Just talk to him a guage for yourself. Then, you will know if he is hot and actually a nice guy....we are hard to find, ya know... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caterina Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 Sometimes talking to yourself is the only way to have an intelligent conversation. Thats great Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quietgrl Posted December 3, 2006 Author Share Posted December 3, 2006 There was one time that i witness this guy talking to himself at the train stationand nobody was around.He was talking to himself and then he started to smiled. I've only talk to this guy 2 times and each time his motor skills were slow but when he talks to other people.He doesn't have a problem talking to them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cloud802 Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 I talk to myself all the time... ... Does that make me crazy? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skyjuice Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 I talk to myself all the time... Does that make me crazy? No, you are definitely not crazy. As for the OP, you could give him and yourself a chance because you will never know he might be a person you are looking for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juliana Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 He might be....he might also have a serious mental illness. Schizophrenics talk to their hallucinations in public. They can have whole long conversations with them. The problem with mental illness is that it makes it difficult for people to perceive reality and to connect with other people. If you don't get a great connection with this guy pretty much from the start, it's going to be more difficult to make that happen that it would be with another person who isn't quite as ill. Reintroduce yourself, sure, but don't expect things that might not happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quietgrl Posted December 3, 2006 Author Share Posted December 3, 2006 This guy is a co-worker so he can't be that mentally ill or my job wouln't hire him. I'm going to reintroduce myself to him and see what happens.My co-worker talk behide his back and call him crazy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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