8 and a half months long distance emailing

[Hetnils]

Hi,

I am a 22 yrs old student currently concentrating on my career. I met my boyfriend during Feb 2006 and we become friends back home in our country. When I went overseas for studies we start emailing each other alot and talked about sex, problems and joke around alot. I am supposed not to fall in love with him as I am a person who cannot handle my studies and being in Love. If I fall in love this would mean I will make emotional decisions and wanting to be with him quickly. Well...last month (Nov 2006) he said he wants to start a family with me which makes me even scared as I am not sure because my plans haven't reached that point yet. These are my following problems:

- he is 6 years older than me so I think he would have short term plans while I have long term plans and this would not match.

-I am planning to stay overseas for 7 more years to continue my career so this would become a problem for him and me in the long term... I guess.

-I emailed him for months now but I feel like I still do not know him well but I only know I am so in love with him.

-I am not sure if this is my last chance because what if I turn 30 or so and regret what I have done.

-Should I tell him to wait? should I say yes?Should I ask for his plans?

 

An advice here would so much be helpful.

 

Thank you

[CarnelianButterfly]

Tell him your plans. You would have to give up a lot of time in your career to have and care for children. If you don't feel this is the right thing, then it probably isn't. See what he wants to do.

[bigredvick]

you being the younger would seem to have more of a short term thing planned. ask him to let you grow up for a bit first.