hennypenny3288 Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 Man loses interest in a woman after a period of time, does it behoove the woman to attempt, in any way possible, to re-awaken that interest? How should one go about it? Change of dress style, loss of weight, make-up, less negativity, etc? Can it work? I don't need the spiel that "all is lost". Need some positive ideas. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goodfun88 Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 Why has he lost interest? More information would be helpful. Are you in a relationship? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VIRGOLDY Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 Are you in a relationship with this person? If so, how long? Details would help. If it's someone who is simply not interested..i don;t think anything would help much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hennypenny3288 Posted October 13, 2006 Author Share Posted October 13, 2006 Casually dated for a while. At first, he was very into me. As time went by, interest dwindled. Not noticeable at first, but now very noticeable. Suspicions raised. Do not wish to lose this, so seeking ways to recapture guy's interest. Can it be done? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goodfun88 Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 I'd say get busy, don't be as available. When he does call to ask you out, tell him your busy that day, but suggest another time to hang out. This will drive up your desire, if any is left. He won't want to imagine you hanging out with another guy, if he likes you at all. Of course, look your best when you do go out, be confident and know your worth his time. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImThatGirl Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 Change of dress style, loss of weight, make-up, less negativity, etc? Can it work? I don't need the spiel that "all is lost". Need some positive ideas. Has he given you reasons that he lost interest? There are ways to get attention back. But, If you are changing your style of dress, going on a diet, trying out new make-up, trying to be positive, you should be doing those things for You, to feel better about yourself rather than doing it just to win him back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hennypenny3288 Posted October 13, 2006 Author Share Posted October 13, 2006 No, no reasons given. Have asked him about his feelings for me. He says they are the same. Yet, detect changes, can't pinpoint, but female radar can detect changes, even subtle ones. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juliana Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 Attempts to capture interest will be seen as pathetic desperation. Male radar notices subtle fandango. Just go on out there and live your life; not every guy is the right guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImThatGirl Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 Well I'd say overall attitude helps. Do you have room to be more positive? Do you feel good about yourself? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hennypenny3288 Posted October 13, 2006 Author Share Posted October 13, 2006 what is "fandango"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rose2summer Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 I agree with other posters to make yourself busy in your life. There's nothing more effective at causing someone to lose interest than chasing them. Remember when you chased your puppy/cat/pet as a child and it kept running away, but the second you stopped chasing it, it came right back home, same situation here. Make yourself unavailable, do a houdini trick. Hugs, Rose Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hennypenny3288 Posted October 13, 2006 Author Share Posted October 13, 2006 Can men tell if you are "desperate" to get them back? Even if your approach is suave and confident? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Day_Walker Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 I dont think that it is as simple that you have to draw them back to you and then once you do, you still have to keep playing that game. The truth is that drawing them back to you only keeps them as long as the infatuation lasts. If the guy has lost interest in you, then unless he relizes what he lost then we wont turn it around. If you believe that his interest is slipping then you are on the downward slope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chai714 Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 When I walk away from a woman, it's usually forever. After having dated them long enough to cut them, I'm done with them. As far as them coming back into the picture and calling me, I'd probably talk to them. However, if they were to get recapture my interest they would have to change their game. If you can learn to seduce a man in such a way that you get him to chase you while slowly walking away from him then you've got him. Creating the desire can be difficult but I also don't know any man who isn't tempted by sexual desire. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juliana Posted October 13, 2006 Share Posted October 13, 2006 "Fandango: n. A vigorous Spanish dance, in triple time." -- new Webster's Dictionary. I actually went and looked it up. Truth be told, I picture something with castanets. Yeah, guys can smell desperate female a mile away. The only thing they don't seem to be able to see through is the "walking away to get him to chase you." A patently obvious move, it works a surprising number of times. I never do it as a trick; if I walk away, I'm really walking away, but I know alot of women who do it as a ploy. Maybe it's a narcissistic thing; people want to ally themselves to a strong partner, not a weak one. And nothing says confident like "I don't need you." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momene Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 If you're not happy with someone and don't have any ties, dump them! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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