cheesius Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 I've been seeing this girl for about 6 months. I wasn't really sure how I felt about her and we were at a bit of a crossroads. One night I was out with some girls she used to work with and ended up sleeping with one of them. I remember walking with her ex coworker wondering if I could go through with it. Afterwards I felt terrible and called my girlfriend for breakfast. I never told her and I'm now sure how I feel about her. Is this bad? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarnelianButterfly Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 Yes. If you felt bad you already knew the answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 Yes. It is. Decide if you want to be with her and let her go if you do not as gently and kindly as possible - and don't tell her you cheated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NJRon Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 yes, it is a bad thing... because you end up hurting yourself a lot... if not the other partner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheesius Posted September 25, 2006 Author Share Posted September 25, 2006 But I mean, it more or less fixed the problems I had with the relationship Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melrich Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 I can't think of any circumstance where cheating is a good thing. You may well have not been sure about your relationship but really the right thing to do is end relationships that are not working out. Certainly end the relationship before you sleep with someone else. I get that this seems to have been an opportunistic occurrence. Nevertheless it seems likely she will find out about this given she knows the girls. I think you should come clean and tell her and probably have a talk with her about where your relationship is or isn't at. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NJRon Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 How could it have fixed the problems iwth the relationship when your relationship wasn't addressed? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheesius Posted September 25, 2006 Author Share Posted September 25, 2006 fine. I really thought I was on to something Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NJRon Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 If you have problems with your relationship.. address them with your partner. If you can't come to resolution, then leave. Cheating just treats a symptom.. not the core issue. And, more often than not, cause more harm than good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MewSkitty Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 I would never cheat. If I liked someone else more than the person I'm currently with, I'd break up with them before doing anything with the other person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheesius Posted September 25, 2006 Author Share Posted September 25, 2006 I really don't have a lot of experience with dating beyond a month and a half. I usually break up before any real feelings grow. New relationships are fun and exciting. Like having a new puppy that gets annoying when they aren't cute anymore. I think I'm in love with this girl now. We are having problems and she seems to need some space because of a dying mother and having her life long friend die recently. I don't really know how to while remaining supportive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NJRon Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 it's something you will have to learn.. otherwise you will be setting yourself up for a pattern of failed relationships. Focus on being secure with yourself first... if you aren't, then you have no security to offer another. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anna. Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 Wait, I still don't get how you think cheating fixed your problems in your relationship. And i especially don't think it was ok to cheat while your gf is going through all of these difficult issues in her life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarnelianButterfly Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 If anything cheating will only complicate your problems. If you wanted to "fix" things by making it easy for her to dump you and you not have to deal with the real issues, then yeah that might be one way of doing it, but definitely not the best way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doyathink Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 If the tables were turned and your gf was the one who cheated on you, how would you feel then. Would you think it strengthened your relationship? Would you say thats ok, now we know we love each other? Of course not! Would you want to know if she cheated on you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yeawutever Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 By cheating you're complicating stuff more and escaping from reality, thus it's a always a wrong choice. It's always better to break up and then proceed on with being with the other person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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