Relationships don't appeal to me anymore

[easyguy]

I'm 19...

I've never been in a relationship before, but used to be attracted

to girls left and right throughout high school. I made moves that failed, but I tried not to let them get to me. I moved on.

 

Nowadays , since being engrossed in my own life, focusing on myself, doing what I love, the idea of a relationship doesn't appeal to me. I don't even think about it. Add to that that I haven't been attracted to anyone in a while. I'm not gay, because I know I am certainly not attracted to guys that way. I still pay attention to girls / women, but I am usually completely satisfied with my how my own life is going that I don't seek someone else to make me happy.

I still find some girls cute, attractive, what have you. But that's it. I don't have many friends, I'm reasonably quiet. I love watching the world spin.

 

I know there is nothing wrong with me feeling this way, because if you're content with yourself, more power to you, but I'm just curious-- how many here choose to be single?

[Momene]

You sound like a well-balanced person to me. I would not have chosen to be single at your age. As someone older in a long marriage, I wouldn't be in a hurry to remarry if I found myself on my own again.

[AntiLove_SuperStar]

I'm jealous - I'd love to be ABLE to choose to be single and happy, but I need to be with someone.

 

I do know, however, a few of my friends - about 4 - are very happy being without a partner and are not looking for a relationship, sex or anything related.

[Dako]

I've felt that way at times in my life. Fully content alone, and although women were nice enough, I wasn't driven wild with lust. My friends would contort their lives in strange ways to pursue women, but I was too busy.

 

Then a certain woman would come along.

[Spugly Fuglet]

Yep has have been said you could be at that point in your life, time for a brake. take it and come back when you happy to.

[chai714]

I've felt that way at times in my life. Fully content alone, and although women were nice enough, I wasn't driven wild with lust. My friends would contort their lives in strange ways to pursue women, but I was too busy.

 

Then a certain woman would come along.

 

Exactly Dako. In a big way, you'll meet that certain or those few certain women who stand out to you. Whatever you may look for in a woman, she may have a lot of those qualities. And these women happen to be on the path you're walking, and you may not be necessarily looking.

 

I think your overall outlook is good and healthy. Being independently happy is an admirable trait.

[TheRedQueen]

More or less, yes for the past year or so I have chosen to happily be single. Dating myself rocks, our sex is great, and our deeply penetrating conversations are even better.

[CynicalGuitarist]

Mr. O.P,

you're on the right track, buddy. I wish I woulda stayed the way you are now before my ex-friend double-crossed me to get with the girl that I like. More power to ya.

[Dako]

If I were TRQ I'd date myself, but when I look in the mirror, I realize help is needed.