How does cutting affect love relationships?

[ShaKe__]

How does cutting affect love relationships?

[southerngirl]

It would probally depend on the relationship, and the people involved in said relationship.

[Slacker]

Sometimes it's a deal-breaker, sometimes it's a manipulation tool.

Cutting brought a great deal of sadness to one of my relationships,

if your s/o cuts his/herself it's bound to make you feel inadequate

[babypink61]

I personally have never been with someone like that, so I probably would panic and wouldn't know how to react. But I'd probably at least try to find out what is the reason behind the cutting and see if there's anything that I can do to help. If the situation doesn't improve then I'd probably break up the person because it's not something I would be able to deal with mentally.

[skittle]

I've never used it as a way of manipulation. I did i before I was with my bf, and continued to do so for a while into the relationship, he only helped me. Going through it, i think, has made us stronger. Hope that helps. x

[AnotherBrokenDoll]

It broke me and my ex up... I was to insecure and used that as my way out. He couldn't take it and left me...

[NJRon]

Cutting affects love relationships the way any mis-directed anger/fear/anxiety/pain does. When you cut, you are trying to overcome emotional pain by inflicting physical pain, because physical pain is much more concrete... easier to understand and reconcile. However, the end effect is that you avoid overcoming the source of the emotional pain in the first place. You never really deal with it. It is a heavy burden that you carry with you. Like all baggage, until you deal with it, it negatively affects your interactions with others.

 

I would neither advocate cutting nor advocate being with a "cutter". Not because they are inherently unlovable, but because they are not working to overcome the deeper issue... they are not growing. It is ok to be imperfect... beauty is shown in how people continue to persevere in the face of difficulties... their willingness to confront their struggle... whether emotional or physical... escape is not quite so beautiful... regardless the form.

[Moon Goddess]

It may be bad and break it up, but it may be good if your partner helps you, supports you and whatever. Then it may be good. In the end you might not cut cuz of that person. In a past relashionship I went 7 months without cutting thanks to him. So it really depends on the people involved.

[NJRon]

Perhaps, instead of relying on someone else to be the source of your reason for not cutting, you could rely on yourself to be the source of your reason.

[craign]

Good advice nj.I was a cutter when i was young.I pushed a couple of good relationships away.It scared them bad.If you are a person that hasnt eduacated yourself on this,it does look psychotic.Me personally even though i was a cutter,if the person wasnt seeking or trying new healthy ways of coping,i wouldnt be in the relationship.I would help the person to the point were i wasnt enabling them.Because what happens when we break up am i going to be the reason they start cutting again.There is only so much you can do for the person,then they have to start and want help.Most importantly,be thier friend.Thats all you can be sometimes.