ShaKe__ Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 How does cutting affect love relationships? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southerngirl Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 It would probally depend on the relationship, and the people involved in said relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slacker Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 Sometimes it's a deal-breaker, sometimes it's a manipulation tool. Cutting brought a great deal of sadness to one of my relationships, if your s/o cuts his/herself it's bound to make you feel inadequate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babypink61 Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 I personally have never been with someone like that, so I probably would panic and wouldn't know how to react. But I'd probably at least try to find out what is the reason behind the cutting and see if there's anything that I can do to help. If the situation doesn't improve then I'd probably break up the person because it's not something I would be able to deal with mentally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skittle Posted September 9, 2006 Share Posted September 9, 2006 I've never used it as a way of manipulation. I did i before I was with my bf, and continued to do so for a while into the relationship, he only helped me. Going through it, i think, has made us stronger. Hope that helps. x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnotherBrokenDoll Posted September 10, 2006 Share Posted September 10, 2006 It broke me and my ex up... I was to insecure and used that as my way out. He couldn't take it and left me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NJRon Posted September 10, 2006 Share Posted September 10, 2006 Cutting affects love relationships the way any mis-directed anger/fear/anxiety/pain does. When you cut, you are trying to overcome emotional pain by inflicting physical pain, because physical pain is much more concrete... easier to understand and reconcile. However, the end effect is that you avoid overcoming the source of the emotional pain in the first place. You never really deal with it. It is a heavy burden that you carry with you. Like all baggage, until you deal with it, it negatively affects your interactions with others. I would neither advocate cutting nor advocate being with a "cutter". Not because they are inherently unlovable, but because they are not working to overcome the deeper issue... they are not growing. It is ok to be imperfect... beauty is shown in how people continue to persevere in the face of difficulties... their willingness to confront their struggle... whether emotional or physical... escape is not quite so beautiful... regardless the form. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moon Goddess Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 It may be bad and break it up, but it may be good if your partner helps you, supports you and whatever. Then it may be good. In the end you might not cut cuz of that person. In a past relashionship I went 7 months without cutting thanks to him. So it really depends on the people involved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NJRon Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Perhaps, instead of relying on someone else to be the source of your reason for not cutting, you could rely on yourself to be the source of your reason. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craign Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 Good advice nj.I was a cutter when i was young.I pushed a couple of good relationships away.It scared them bad.If you are a person that hasnt eduacated yourself on this,it does look psychotic.Me personally even though i was a cutter,if the person wasnt seeking or trying new healthy ways of coping,i wouldnt be in the relationship.I would help the person to the point were i wasnt enabling them.Because what happens when we break up am i going to be the reason they start cutting again.There is only so much you can do for the person,then they have to start and want help.Most importantly,be thier friend.Thats all you can be sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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