Want Him To Miss Me

[VIRGOLDY]

Been seeing someone for a couple months. Things are going well, but we are not exclusive yet. I am going away until next week...and I hope he misses me.

Whats the best thing to do? Tell him i am going away? Or just go away without notice and hope he sees my absense? Which is more effective?

Thanks.

[rose2summer]

Go away WITHOUT notice, you never want to tell them that you are doing no contact, because then you no longer have control of the situation. Just isolate yourself from him and he will miss you at some point.

[PRSOV]

If he makes contact with you before you leave... then I think you should tell him, although say where you are going you will not have any mobile reception so you will not be able to maintain contact until you arrive back home.

 

Have fun!

[ElektraHere]

If he contacts you before and he asks if you have plans then mention it. Also you could email him to mention that you have a trip coming up. Go and have a good time. If he wants to get together with you he will. Go and not think if he will miss you. Enjoy your time away.

[Sally00]

You should atleast tell him you are going away. I'd say you're obligated since you're in a relationship. You don't wanna leave 'em hanging. Atleast let 'em know.

[DN]

Suppose you go away without telling him and he assumes he has been dumped - because why else would someone he has been seeing for a couple of months disrespect him like that.

 

And suppose he decides that since he has been unceremoniously dumped he may as well go and find a new girlfriend?

[Relationship Coach]

OK, which guy is this? Because since July 23rd, you've posted about three different men. The reason I ask is my response would be different based on which guy we are talking about here. Or is this someone new?

 

A. The Online Guy

I am interested in someone I met online. We really click. We have spoke on the phone various times and exchanged pix. We've been doing this for cliose to a year. I know he likes me a lot but we have both never met someone in this fashion before.

 

I am not sure how to proceed. I don't want to be this indefinete email friend. I truly want something with this guy. What can I do to make him feel better

about taking this further?

B. The Married Guy "J"

I work with the public..in a store. I have been there almost two years, and last year I met a guy "J" who I am EXTREMELY attracted to. The sparks were flying. Anyway, I don't see him all that often because my schedule changes often. The thing is..J is married and has three boys. His wife and sons come in on occasion as well.

 

 

C. The divorced father of 3

Been seeing a divorced father of 3 kids for a couple months. He's been divorced since November, and his kids are a priority which I find extremely appealing, though I have no kids of my own.

 

 

 

 

RC

[VIRGOLDY]

HAHHAA RC...good question!!! It's number 3. The divorced guy with 3 kids. Sorry I should have explained!!!

[Relationship Coach]

I would let him know that you are going to be taking a short trip and may be unreachable, then read his reaction. Leave him a little something behind so he can ingest your sweet essense to captivate his senses.

 

RC

[VIRGOLDY]

Hey thanks RC!! I sent him an email letting him know I would be gone through part of next week....he replied... "Ah MAN!!!! You're going to be gone ALL next week????" LOL

I hope that was a positive reaction