Replaceme Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 If anyone could please give me advice ! Its day 9 of NC - tomorrow will be day 10. I just left work and my boss said we will be having a meeting at my ex's workplace! Help - I dont want to go!!! Should I come clean with my new boss and tell him - he doesnt know we were together - I just dont want to come off as a problem. I really like this job! Or do i come up with a personnel excuse - like should I lie and say oh I have to do something. But i am expected to be in this meeting. I just cant go and face him right now. Please help - what should I do?? Please i am having a panic attack now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Skittles Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 You should go to the meeting. Its strictly for professional reasons and if you do see your ex there just maintain your professional appearance in front of your boss and don't say too much to him. Just stay calm and relaxed, its just a business meeting, it'll all go fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Replaceme Posted July 11, 2006 Author Share Posted July 11, 2006 i cant go - he will be in the meeting - i cant go Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Replaceme Posted July 11, 2006 Author Share Posted July 11, 2006 i might throw my laptop accross the table and hit him. Not professional. (I am kidding) well... no of course i am kidding! But i am serious i cant go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daddy Bear Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 think of it as a test of your patience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Skittles Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 Ok, so you are going to let an ex-boyfriend stand in the way of you LIVING your life??? You seriously need to face this situation. You CAN go, be positive about it. Honestly, just be professional, don't bring any personal feelings into it, just think of it as strictly business and thats it. Don't show him you are angry, just act calm and happy. Why did you two break up? What is it that is scaring you so much about facing him? What is the worst that is going to happen? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Replaceme Posted July 11, 2006 Author Share Posted July 11, 2006 the thing is - yes in like a month i see being able to handle it. But not right now. I just dont want to go. Its not crucial i am there at the meeting anyway. I am seriously considering coming up with a lie. My mother said to call them in the morning and say i have to take her to her doctors appt. emergency type situation. They would understand - they are very laid back - cool. I just cant see my ex right now. It would seriously affect me negativily - i cant do it. and i am doing so good in dealing with the loss of self esteem , everything. Like I said , i just need more time . I amseriously considering lieing to get out of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Skittles Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 OK, but does your ex know that u are supposed to show up at this meeting? Cuz it would look worse if you didn't show up (he would think u are afraid to see him) than if you just showed up and acted as if nothing happened between you two. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostNspace Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 It's not easy, but you have to go. I know exactly what you are going thru because I used to date a guy that I had a business relationship with (not same company, but someone I had to talk to professionally on a regular basis.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frigginexes Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 I think I know how you feel. I wouldn't go if it's going to affect you that much, it sucks to break the flow of NC. It could set you back, then you'll have to start over again. If it's pretty laid back and your boss won't be upset then miss it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HangingInThere Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 If anyone could please give me advice ! Its day 9 of NC - tomorrow will be day 10. I just left work and my boss said we will be having a meeting at my ex's workplace! Help - I dont want to go!!! Should I come clean with my new boss and tell him - he doesnt know we were together - I just dont want to come off as a problem. I really like this job! Or do i come up with a personnel excuse - like should I lie and say oh I have to do something. But i am expected to be in this meeting. I just cant go and face him right now. Please help - what should I do?? Please i am having a panic attack now. I REALLY DO NOT THINK IT IS WISE TO BRING YOUR EMPLOYER INTO this! for one, it is very unprofessional!!!!!!!!! Definitely go to the meeting, do what you have to do and then leave! you are not facing him...its not a social event, its work! just show him(ex) how well you are doing in this new job! i would definitely attend and be Fabulous. i dont see why your mom is encouraging you to not attend this. as one person said, what is the worse that can happen?! its not liek he is going to be flirting with another woman, or ignoring your attempts to speak to him (regarding work)! just woman up and go! this would do more good than harm, trust! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Skittles Posted July 12, 2006 Share Posted July 12, 2006 So , did you go to the meeting? HOw was it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Replaceme Posted July 12, 2006 Author Share Posted July 12, 2006 Nope didnt go - and I thank GOD!!! feeling good about my decision not going or telling my employer anything. The cat is still in the bag! I swear , if he tells them i will be so mad. BTW- its day 10 nc/moving on ..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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