coldheart Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Me and my ex broke up mutually about 2 weeks ago due to excalating arguments and some mistreatment/neglection on my part. 24 hours after the breakup she called to let me know that we didn't have any reason to see each other or talk about anything else because nothing would work at this point. In addition, she told me that all of my stuff was ready for pickup at her house and I picked it up through a friend the next day. Now that I have moved into my new house, I have an entire boxfull of her stuff and about 4 hangers of clothing articles. Should I box it all up and just wait for a "forced" contact on her part, or voluntarily send it back through FedEx? What type of impression would this yield? At the moment Im holding NC for 2 weeks and she apparently wants nothing to do with me any further since she hasn't contacted me. All advice is appreciated! CH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RayKay Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Send it through FedEx. No need to talk to her, just send it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Send it through FedEx. No need to talk to her, just send it. Yep - I second that. If she wants to talk she will find a reason. Best to assume she meant what she said and move on as soon as you can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melrich Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 If you are looking for consensus, I agree, send it through Fedex. If it's hanging around your house for any period of time it will be constantly nagging in your mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arwen Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Three is a charm, right? Yes, do the FedEx. Good thing you moved. It's time to have a clean new start, without having her stuff around. Funny that she didn't ask for her stuff sofar ilse Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coldheart Posted March 28, 2006 Author Share Posted March 28, 2006 Funny that she didn't ask for her stuff sofar ilse I thought the same thing but then again she knew my stuff was in storage and wouldn't be moved out till my closing on my new house (the closing had an indefinite date). Anyways, no reason to dwell on any possible other reason, it's only self-torture IMO. Thanks for the recomendation guys! CH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orgasmictofu Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 FedEx? Heck, send it UPS, or canada post, wherever you are. It's cheaper! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarnelianButterfly Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 I say use the cheapest form of delivery. Are there still any friends that you can have take it over? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phoenix69 Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 I am having the same problem. However I have my ex's stuff in the back of my car. We had a relatively mutual break up, however I still want him back at times, because he said the actual breaking up thing. We have already done the whole seperating of stuff, but at the old house when I went to do a last clean up, there were shoes and model making stuff that is his. Unfortunately for me, I still have to see him as his pay goes into my bank account still. I say you do it by fed ex because it hurts WAY more when you still have to see them and don't have the oppurtunity to just say goodbye and have a nice life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tigris Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Why pay money to send it back if one of your friends will do it for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted March 29, 2006 Share Posted March 29, 2006 Why pay money to send it back if one of your friends will do it for you! Because it is sending the message that he is doing it impersonally with no hidden agenda. If it is sent by a friend she could think he wants the friend to plead his case, or at least see if there is a message or a hope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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