Big Jim Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Just for curiousoity sake, was your guys break up clean and civil, or was it dramatic and fighting. Mine personnaly has progressed from a civil one, to a soap opera style brawl. And was there any contact down the road?? No im not hoping for contact, i could have it if i want, see her all the time, just curious if after such brutal fights and such people let it go and talk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Jim Posted March 20, 2006 Author Share Posted March 20, 2006 Also i almost find the drama brawl way better in a sick way. When it was civil, i was like * * * * look what im losing, this beautiful, kind, caring girl. Now i think, whoa didnt see that side of you, and surprisingly dont miss her the same way. Im sure this is short term, since the good will be remembered in the long run, but it works right now. Hard to miss someone who was so uncompromising Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
passions1 Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 It was messy initially, b/c my ex (from long distant relationship) had broken up with me via email letter & that he could not be contacted b/c he left his cell phone behind when he moved to another place. It was harsh b/c I had felt like an unwanted abandonned person. However, from that type of breakup it made me realize that sometimes in life people will not give you closure & you just have to live with that & move on. Now I realize from having gained more dating experience & being with my current bf over a year what type of guy I'm more compatible with & not being afraid to be alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majord23 Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 My current break-up is by far the most civil. I have underlying feelings of animosity associated with breaking-up, and I'm sure she has some associated with me employing NC...but we haven't had a harsh word to say to each other. I didn'ty get angry in her presense, and she didn't get angry in mine. It's nice, but weird. This is the first significant heart-break that I have gone through where this has been the case. Usually i would push and push until we had a massive fight...I would reach rock bottom...and then start healing. This time however, I really am in unfamiliar territory....where my actions have in no way harmed the chances of reconcilation. It's comforting to know there is a chance....but I'm not completely sure that I'm necessarily in a better place because of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarnelianButterfly Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Never dated, so I've never had the chance to have a break up, but I lean towards the scorched earth side. I think I'd like the finallity of an atomic bomb end all fight. Why, because then I know I won't think "does he still love me?" I'm weird, but I like things to end cut and dry no dangling bits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissancewoman101 Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 My ex's breakup with me started off cleanly where he told me that he didnt see us going anywhere and that he lost his feelings for me. I took it ok at first and was hoping that he would see the error of his ways. Gave him two weeks of space and then met up with him again. Got drunk and got into the worst argument/fight that I had ever gotten into with him. After that, he decided not to ever get back together with me again and started to say nasty things about our breakup to people who knew the both of us. I ended up enlisting a mutual friend on my side, caused her son to stop being friends with my ex, and it turned into a nice nasty situation that I have posted amount numerous times on here. As of now, I dont think we could ever be friends again. I talked to someone recently who knows the ex and he is still saying nasty things about me. He still owes me money and now won't pay me back. And I have the added weirdness of his mother every so often calling me to tell me to have hope and shape up my life if I want to have ex back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dako Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 I'm having a civil split from my wife. She's a sweetheart and we're doing okay so far. Neither of us needs drama and we still care about each other. Neither of us wants to get back together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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