I dont want to attend my friends Christening

[prettydance]

I have a friend from High school, we're in our late twenties now. But we never hung out after HS, I tried to but she never wanted to hang out with me but we still kept in touch through phone.

 

I went to her wedding. She had two babies already, I didnt attend the showers because I felt we werent close. I mean she never got together with me all those years. But i didnt contact her for a year and she did call a couple of times and sent letters so I thought it was nice she still wanted to be friends.

 

I spoke with her around x-mas, shes not as friendly and open as she used to be, which I was surprised.More of an aquinatnce type. I sent her a x-mas present for her baby just to be nice.

 

But now shes inviting me to the babys Christening. I dont want to go. When we talked on the phone, shes the one who wanted to get off twice. Didnt call back. And didnt say "lets get together".

 

I know shes busy with 3 children but she could have said it would be nice to see me, and she didnt and now I get a Christening invite.

 

Is it wrong for me not to attend and do i have to call and say I cant make it? Or do i just send back the RSVP?

[in_the_mirror]

if you don't want to go then don't....i mean you sound like you were never really close at all so i don't see why it would be a big upset if you didn't show up. if she does ask just say something came up and you couldn't make it.

[keenan]

RSVP "no". There should be a place on the card. You don't have to give her an explanation.

 

If there isn't a box to check on the RSVP card, then just send her a card congratulating her on her happiness, and expressing your regrets that you won't be able to attend. Wish her the best, and all that....

 

Don't feel guilty.