barenmind Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 What does everyone here think of this? A friend of over a year proposed the idea to me recently. She says she likes me, but realizes that we are incompatible, which is true, but I like her too. It's weird. I don't know what to think sometimes... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steve-0 Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 never done with friends with benefits thing because i think I am the one who will get too attached. Someone always does. I'd say if you kinda like her then go for it. There is potential to be something more for sure. what do you have to lose? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LostInMyThoughts Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 It's hard to pull off. Seperating the emotional aspect from sex with the physical aspect is not something that is easy to do. It also makes things harder later on. Especially if you maintain a strong friendship, and one of you gets into a real relationship. That past history is the past, but it will come back. That being said, I've done it, and its worth the risk... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarnelianButterfly Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 Why not try a real relationship? If you like each other, whats the problem? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barenmind Posted February 28, 2006 Author Share Posted February 28, 2006 Well, I know for a fact that we don't see eye to eye on a lot of things that are important to us, but that really hasn't stopped us from being friends. There is definitely a chemistry there, but I just think it feels wrong. Part of me wants to do it, but it kinda goes against all my morals and values. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barenmind Posted February 28, 2006 Author Share Posted February 28, 2006 As for trying a real relationship with her, I don't think it would last long. There are too many things we would want to change about each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 I have yet to hear of a fwb that did not end without someone getting hurt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LostInMyThoughts Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 "I have yet to hear of a fwb that did not end without someone getting hurt." Nobody got hurt. My friend left to a foreign country. Perhaps because her feelings were too strong and she had to get away from me. I guess I'll never know... ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
friscodj Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 Well, I know for a fact that we don't see eye to eye on a lot of things that are important to us, but that really hasn't stopped us from being friends. There is definitely a chemistry there, but I just think it feels wrong. Part of me wants to do it, but it kinda goes against all my morals and values. For me, it's an issue of responsibility. If you're going to have sex with someone, be prepared to handle the consequences, which can include an attachment forming and pregnancy. Could you see yourself raising a child with this woman and being a good father? My best friend growing up had a FWB and now his life is changed forever because of fatherhood... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 Nobody got hurt. My friend left to a foreign country. Perhaps because her feelings were too strong and she had to get away from me. I guess I'll never know... ;-) Which presumably meant that at some level she was hurt if her feelings were so strong she had to move away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LostInMyThoughts Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 Which presumably meant that at some level she was hurt if her feelings were so strong she had to move away. I said that jokingly... Before we took that step, she had said she was going away to teach english, so I know that it wasn't the case of hurt feeligns. Then again we didn't do the fwb thing for an extended time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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