Ians Mommy Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 Yep. I'm pregnant. I found out last Sunday. I'm 7 weeks according to some website I went on. Last October (the first time I had sex) I got pregnant and by the time I was ready to tell the dad, I had a miscarriage (13 weeks). For 6 to 7 months after that, I was trying SOOO hard to get pregnant again but it never happened. Now that I was on the pill and not trying, it happened. So yeah, I don't know. btw, I was bored today and came up with names. Ian Kyle for a boy and Codey Brooklynn for a girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the yang to the worlds yin Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 your 16, what are you doing trying to get pregnant? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
friscodj Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 What's your situation right now? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarnelianButterfly Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 For 6 to 7 months after that, I was trying SOOO hard to get pregnant again but it never happened. WHY?! You're 16! WHY?! A website can't give a definitive answer anyway. Only a doctor can tell for sure if you are pregnant. Go to one as soon as possible! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ians Mommy Posted February 27, 2006 Author Share Posted February 27, 2006 Actually, when I was trying, I was only 15. It was a dumb mistake when I look back on it and I'll admit that. Uh. What do you mean by situation? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ians Mommy Posted February 27, 2006 Author Share Posted February 27, 2006 I'm sure that I'm pregnant. I only went on there to figure out a due date and how far along I am. I know it's probably not exact. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissancewoman101 Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 You should go see a doctor to see if you are really pregnant and to get some good prenatal care because you have had an instance of a miscarriage before. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
friscodj Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 Uh. What do you mean by situation? I mean how long have you known the father, what the relationship is like, your motivations to have a child, does your family support you, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ians Mommy Posted February 27, 2006 Author Share Posted February 27, 2006 I'm making an appointment tomorrow. When I went back and re-read the posts, I'm not sure if everyone saw it, but I said that I wasn't trying to get pregnant. It was a year ago that I was trying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
musicguy Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 why are u trying to get pregnant? you're still a kid, enjoy your years first Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the yang to the worlds yin Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 wait, you had sex and now you autmatically assume your pregnant? i'm confused.you have missed periods i'm assuming? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ians Mommy Posted February 27, 2006 Author Share Posted February 27, 2006 I've known the father for over 3 years. He's been my best friend and psychologist for a long time lol. I don't know what I'm feeling about it yet.. I really don't think the whole thing has sunk in yet. My family doesn't support me. at all. and I know that for a fact and I haven't even told them yet. Other than that, I have a job. I make anywhere from 300 to 400 dollars a week and only spend about 20 a week and the rest goes in the bank. If my parents kick me out (I don't think they will but I know they'll be pissed), I do have a place to go. I basically raised my niece from the time she was born until she was a year and a half and I was only 12 when she was born so it's not like I don't know what I'm doing with babies. Oh yeah, and in the town I live, there's an alternative high school where you work in the morning and go to school at night and they have free babysitting for you if you volunteer 2 to 3 hours a week or if you don't, it's still cheap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Serendipity1607307077 Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 It's easy to get 'clucky' when you are young! You should look at your situation carefully and make an informed decision. You said that your family won't support you. Is there someone else you know that you will be able to have around you to help you out, ie. an uncle or aunty? Now I hate talking about this, because it's such a controversial thing to talk about because I'm personally against it... but... it's better that you have an environment where you can have a baby and live comfortably without having to struggle to survive. If you feel that you won't have this comfortable and supportive environment, you might have to think about abortion...it's not right to bring a baby into the world if you won't be able to support it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the yang to the worlds yin Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 none of that means your ready for your own child though... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ians Mommy Posted February 27, 2006 Author Share Posted February 27, 2006 Like I said before, I wasn't trying to get pregnant now. I was on the pill for 6 months before I found out I was pregnant. I was supposed to get my period on Feb. 7th and I put it off getting a test until last week. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarnelianButterfly Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 I've known the father for over 3 years. He's been my best friend and psychologist for a long time lol. THIS IS WRONG WRONG WRONG!!! Your should not be having sex with your psychologist. HE IS ABUSING YOU!!! His sexual contact with you is ILLEGAL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the yang to the worlds yin Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 well did you take the pill religiousely? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShySoul Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 I think people want to know why you were trying in the first place, even if you weren't trying now. You are young. Having a baby is a big responsibilty. Even though you have probably heard this before, its worth hearing again. Having sex can lead to being pregnant, rather you are trying or not. You have to be ready to handle the consequences when it happens. It's a big deal and will seriously change your life in more ways then you probably realize. And while you may think you are ready, and may even be responsible enough to handle it, it is still something that you should have been more careful about. See a doctor first thing. And if you are pregnant, your parents need to know. You will need their support. Together you can get through this and will be able to give the baby the love and support it needs once it arrives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the yang to the worlds yin Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 holy cow, i thought she meant he was supportive, i didn't realise she meant a literal psychologist... holy cow Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
friscodj Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 THIS IS WRONG WRONG WRONG!!! Your should not be having sex with your psychologist. HE IS ABUSING YOU!!! His sexual contact with you is ILLEGAL! Is he really an official psychologist or are you just referring to him in that manner because he supports you psychologically so well... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ians Mommy Posted February 27, 2006 Author Share Posted February 27, 2006 lmfao I didn't mean it seriously. He's not really my psychologist. He was just the one that always listened to me when I was going through problems and helped me through them. Sorry for the confusion. Yeah, I think I missed one pill around the time that I had sex with him which is probably the cause of this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scout Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 THIS IS WRONG WRONG WRONG!!! Your should not be having sex with your psychologist. HE IS ABUSING YOU!!! His sexual contact with you is ILLEGAL! She may have just been using the term "psychologist" in a figurative, not literal way. Let's hope so, at any rate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ians Mommy Posted February 27, 2006 Author Share Posted February 27, 2006 Ok. Just to clear that up, he's not really my psychologist. Just a friend that listened to my problems and helped me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
musicguy Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 still tho, you are young, I'm 26 and I don't even have a kid yet. My friend she's 25 and she has 4 kids, is on welfare and is having a hard time to raise all of them with her bf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ians Mommy Posted February 27, 2006 Author Share Posted February 27, 2006 I know I'm young and I know it's going to be hard. And I forgot to answer someone else's question awhile back. They asked why I was trying to get pregnant last year. I think it was because after I lost the baby, I wanted just to replace the baby so bad that I was trying everything for that to happen. I'm still not so sure why I was trying. I know that I have to responsible about everything and stop being a teenager and start being a mom when this baby is born. If I was responsible enough to open my legs, I have to take responsibility for this. This is real, it's not just going to go away, and I know that. I'm ready to take on this challenge. My question now is just should I tell the father? He's a senior in high school and was already accepted to a college and I don't want to mess up his plans for something that was my fault. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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