Do I have a chance?

[beatless]

I recently(1-1/2 month ago) had a breakup with

my GF, she broke it off and yes for anyone who has not felt this emotions

they are intense. The grief is/was a lot, I felt like dying. What made it

tough is that like your relationship we also what supposed to be a

future, supposed to be a long term relationship. Then work problems

happened, everyday work related stress affected me and our life.

I became a tired and less energy person. And most important our

communication were really lacking. I believe we both afraid to open up

with each other on the problems to prevent rocking the boat. And when

we cannot hold-in anymore and finally talk it out, we both were angry

and end-up verbally fighting. Anyway I wanted to finally solve my work

problems (quitting the job) with her support but then it was too late.

She had enough and wanted to break our relationship.

 

After a month and going on two, yes time do help heal but I still feel

pain on occasion. I got myself a pet dog for companion.

I want to do what you have done is to contact her for coffee and avoid

talking about our relationship. We have not spoken to each other for

all these time. I see you both are talking again, is there a possibility

of going back?? With all of you reading this and tried to get back with

an ex, what are the chances of success, high? low? very low?

 

Yep I tried finding another girl, one had given her phone number to me

but somehow I did not feel excited... I felt I am not ready. Maybe

it is too early to be dating someone?

[nikkers04]

If you still feel for your ex...try to contact her...tell her how you feel and how you would like to fix your differences...if its not your ex you want...then give yourself some more time to adjust not having her with you before you jump into a serious relationship with someone else. Take her out as friends...because having a friend is always nice...even if you dont tell her what is going on with your love life

[heloladies21]

Friend, all of your feelings are normal. Do not contact her, it's her job to try and get you back because she's the one who walked away. Keep doing all kinds of activities and most important talk to lots of other girls. You got this girl's #, call her and talk to her, and then go out and get another #, repeat. Do this over and over and you will find someone who will care about you more than she did.

[beatless]

If you still feel for your ex...try to contact her...tell her how you feel and how you would like to fix your differences...if its not your ex you want...then give yourself some more time to adjust not having her with you before you jump into a serious relationship with someone else. Take her out as friends...because having a friend is always nice...even if you dont tell her what is going on with your love life

 

Thank you Nikkers04, I do still feel for my ex. I am planning to contacting

her for the first time since the breakup. To tell you the truth I have not

even mention the breakup to my parents, they will be very upset and it's

something I cannot deal with on top of what I have right now. If my plan

fails and my ex still does not want to see me then I would painfully have

to move on with my life.

[beatless]

Friend, all of your feelings are normal. Do not contact her, it's her job to try and get you back because she's the one who walked away. Keep doing all kinds of activities and most important talk to lots of other girls. You got this girl's #, call her and talk to her, and then go out and get another #, repeat. Do this over and over and you will find someone who will care about you more than she did.

 

Hi Heloladies21, thank you for your advice. My plan is to finally contact

my ex after two months of complete nc with her. I feel it's either she's

willing to at least talk to me as a friend for now, no relationship topics,

just about our job, the weather, and our dogs. The girl who gave me her

number lives just next town and we had talked a couple of times. It is

so difficult though to be honest when I kept thinking of my ex who I used

to kiss, hug, have dinner with and slept on the same bed every night.

If my ex decide that she does not want to see me then I would have

more solid feelings to move on with my life.......

And cut down on drinking..... which I'm getting tired of doing

[nikkers04]

Good Luck with that...I know how if feels to not talk to someone you love. Just get everything off your chest you will feel so much better even if it doens't work. I know that i was so mad at myself for not telling someone I loved very much how I felt because it was too late when I did tell them. So tell her that way you can say you tried and you did everything you could to get her back...show her that you still care and that will hopefully be enough... Let me know how it goes and good luck!