Boyfriend watching teen porn

[Batya33]

OP you're not a naive person.  You are a person who didn't know a specific thing about porn on Reddit -why are you so self-critical? I've only looked at reddit when it comes up in searches like when I'm trouble shooting computer issues or looking for reviews of products or issues with products.  I'm not a naive person at all.  

For sure  you can speak with him and be quiet, let him talk if he's willing and gather information from your partner.  The other day I was under the misunderstanding that my husband had told my son something (my son told me) and I was upset but I also trust my husband and think he is an awesome parent so it wasn't adding up. Turned out my son had misunderstood what was communicated and in fact our separate advice to him about a situation was the same.  But I approached my husband calmly and with  respect and he was an open book about the conversation he'd had with our son over dinner with him.  Information is power.  

My strong sense is that your partner will feel defensive even if you approach him appropriately.  But for sure why not?

[Coily]

10 hours ago, pine_nut_dancing said:

I can't remember the subreddit, but it was something like small size. It wasn't teen porn, I snooped the subreddit and it's mostly just smaller bodies/25 to 30-something crowd. 
But I've since checked and he has looked at teen-porn category, although it was once in probably 3 months. And they were just young looking, not 15 young, but like 18 years old. And it was them masturbating, not scene setups. 
I don't know what a lot of porn consumption is, how to quantify that. He watches probably 2-3 times a week. He lives alone though, so I kind of chalk it up to that. 

I have to find a way to talk to him about this, I suppose. I just want to go into it when I'm ready to. I don't know, I'm a naive person. I didn't even know that teen category was a thing, let alone so popular. I'm just disturbed by the zeitgeist of this.

On the face of it, this sounds less sinister on his part. The fact he likes petite women, probably leads to this being more incidental than him going out of his way to find teen porn. That said, you don't have to be okay with that.

As far as talking about it, that's a minefield. Having read enough posts on here, the one thing you don't want to do is get confrontational about it; if you want honest answers. Now if you want he to act defensive, and interpret that as guilt, be brash; but I get the feeling that's not you.

You need to drop it in as casual conversation, not exactly easy; but not where he feels accused.