Is it reasonable to assume this girl doesn’t like me?

[SC2005]

Me and a girl have been talking a lot and got pretty close. We talked very deeply and, in that context, she gave me a very heavy compliment. 
 

Recently, we were talking an another friend present, and our weekend plans came up. She said she wasn’t doing anything, and another friend (F) — who won’t be home on the weekend (army context) — said that me and this girl should meet up. I said I’m down. The girl I’m talking to and is referred to in the title said: “I don’t know, it’d be kind of weird for us to meet”. She then progressed to say that she’s not a “people person” and doesn’t like to meet up, generally.
 

Relatedly, she talked about how, many times in life she relates to people (boys and girls) at the beginning, but loses interest and connection quickly. I very much felt that in my relationship with her. She enthusiastically talked and texted with me loads when we first got to know each other, but over time seems to be more indifferent. Having said that, we still talk and text a lot, sometimes texting for a long time (almost an hour) straight. Our conversations are also long, we sit with each other for at least an hour during guard shifts. 
 

I am confused, and have used this post mainly to vent. 
 

Ultimately, my question is as follows:

 

 Is the fact that she expressed disinterest in meeting up indicative that she is not interested in me at all? 

 

[Cherylyn]

Just because she's not a people person socially doesn't mean she doesn't have interest engaging in a conversation with you.  I wouldn't read too much into it. 

However,  her interest in you is either waning or her communication with you goes in spurts.  Sometimes there is time and energy invested with long correspondence or conversations and other times,  perhaps she's tired and bored or both. 

Don't over do it with texts or phone chats.  Too much familiarity breeds contempt.  Have some mystery so you're more intriguing and keep the relationship fresh.  Prevent relationships from growing stale.

[Batya33]

I think she gave you a polite excuse.  She is not interested in going on a date with you or spending one on one time with you and she likes texting with you.  If you are content with a chat buddy keep texting but if it's going to bother you because she is not interested in dating you then don't. Her compliment didn't mean she wanted to date you or spend time with you one on one.  

[BeatPoet]

1 hour ago, SC2005 said:

 Is the fact that she expressed disinterest in meeting up indicative that she is not interested in me at all? 

I'd say she's not romantically interested in you if she doesn't want to meet. More like she wants a pen pal. 

[shouldhavelearned]

Friends

[SC2005]

8 hours ago, Batya33 said:

I think she gave you a polite excuse.  She is not interested in going on a date with you or spending one on one time with you and she likes texting with you.  If you are content with a chat buddy keep texting but if it's going to bother you because she is not interested in dating you then don't. Her compliment didn't mean she wanted to date you or spend time with you one on one.  

Got it. She also asked in that same conversation with the compliment if I ever had a girlfriend. I guess you can’t read into anything. 

[Batya33]

3 hours ago, SC2005 said:

Got it. She also asked in that same conversation with the compliment if I ever had a girlfriend. I guess you can’t read into anything. 

No I never did for me -the only sign that someone wants to date you is if they ask you out on a date they plan in advance or respond with enthusiasm when you do and follow up to confirm the time and place plan or suggest a specific time and place plan.  I never thought her compliment meant she wanted to go on a date with you.  Asking if  you are single is something people do out of curiosity.  Or perhaps she wanted to flirt online with you in addition to her compliment.

[Kwothe28]

12 hours ago, SC2005 said:

She then progressed to say that she’s not a “people person” and doesn’t like to meet up, generally.

BS. She would be “a peoples person” if she met somebody who she likes. But you are just somebody to keep her entertained. Not somebody who she views as “boyfriend material”. So she wont go out with you.

[smackie9]

Stop wasting your time. 

[Andrina]

What would it matter if she was interested if she won't engage in a normal dating situation?

Even when I was attracted to someone, if what that could offer wasn't my ideal, I'd move on so I'd be emotionally free and available for the right potential partner.

In your shoes, I'd greatly lessen texting and just think of her as any other co-worker whom you have to make the time pleasant with during guard duty.

[SophiaG]

16 hours ago, SC2005 said:

She said she wasn’t doing anything, and another friend (F) — who won’t be home on the weekend (army context) — said that me and this girl should meet up. I said I’m down.

I agree that this girl probably doesn't want to date you, but for your own sake, if you are interested in someone be direct and ask them to spend time together. Don't hide behind other friends' suggestions and halfhearted "I'm down"s.