Should I tell a woman I'm dating about my past

[justoldme77]

I've been dating this woman for 3.5 months now. She wanted to take it slow. For the past month and half she's been staying at my place one day a week and we've been having sex. We text everyday. Sometimes a lot sometimes a little. We still haven't spoken once on the phone. It's just texting. When she's over we don't do much except for play video games, watch movies and have sex together. We don't really have conversations it's only just small talk. She is always busy on weekdays cause of her professional job. We met online and neither of us have said to delete the profiles. But we're not seeing anyone else. We are close in the way where we text daily, kiss when we meet and have sex but it hasn't grown feelings between us. There is no love and our lives are almost separate. I don't believe either of us would develop feelings for each other. Many weeks ago there were a few times a smile emoji had hearts on it but that's all. Fifteen (15) years ago I was convicted of a sexual offense.Touching a minor inappropriately was the crime. I know how bad that sounds and everything was very bad back then. That is completely behind me and has been for over 10 years. I never went to prison, the probation I was on ended over 10 years ago and I need to register annually for 5 more years. That is the only crime I've ever committed. I'm hesitant to tell this woman I'm dating cause that's not who I am or have been for so very long now. If we were falling in love, we had feelings for each other or seemed serious then I would have to tell her. I've been questioning if I should say anything or not. And it's not too serious between us making me think not to bring it up. What do you think?

[Lambert]

Do you want a relationship with her? I am confused why you say you don't think feelings will develop, but you keep seeing her.

[Wiseman2]

23 minutes ago, justoldme77 said:

  I need to register annually for 5 more years. 

If it's just casual you may be able to hide it but there are public records for registered sex offenders, so eventually women will find out.

[Seraphim]

I wouldn’t be impressed to find out months later . First meeting is time to mention this. 

[Kwothe28]

Dude, the only thing worst then the killer is a child sexual predator. Guys like you dont survive jail. For a very good reason. She and any other sane women would not only broke up with you but denounce you over newspapers(or in modern day, Twitter) over that. She deserves to know stuff like that if you want to date her. Especially if she has kids.

[HeartGoesOn]

There's no way around it, (imo).  This type of information is public and is easy to find.

Even though this is a serious offense, she deserves to know.  If anything,  she'll be upset that you hid this from her, along with other outcomes, etc. I'd be honest and let the chips fall where they may.  As the saying goes, "the truth will set you free."

[left due to request]

I think it's better to tell her about it than someone else looking you up and finding it.  As you know, sex offenders are very easy to find.  In most counties it's public record.  all she or others have to do is type 'sex offenders near me' and it will come up.  Whether you are dating her or just having casual sex, she should know.

[Batya33]

Yes she deserves to know because even if she doesn't have kids at some point she may want you to be around kids of her friends or family at an activity.  Tell her ASAP.

[Andrina]

You have to do what's best for other people in these cases, instead of what's best for yourself. So yes, a romantic partner deserves this info.

[Cherylyn]

Tell her the truth.  She will decide for herself whether or not she wishes to continue seeing you.  Never be deceitful otherwise it will come back to haunt you. 

[catfeeder]

If you're not invested in this woman for more than occasional hookups, then you don't really have anything to lose by being honest with her.

If she sticks around, you'll have a clear conscience and hold less tension about her finding out by other means. If she does not, then you haven't really lost anything heartbreaking, right?

[MissCanuck]

Yes, you asbolutely need to tell her. She needs to hear it from you before she finds out on her own. 

And she could very easily find out on her own if you are registered. All it takes from her is a quick search. You need to be honest from the get-go about these things.