Leila22 Posted September 16, 2022 Share Posted September 16, 2022 All I think about is when I was raped by a guy I met while I was out walking to re fresh my head from thoughts I was having. I didn't do anything, I wasn't wearing anything to cause him to rape me. I just cant get over it 😞 I feel disgusting. 😭😭😭. It's all my fault. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leila22 Posted September 16, 2022 Author Share Posted September 16, 2022 Just now, Wiseman2 said: 1/1Skip AdContinue watchingafter the adVisit Advertiser websiteGO TO PAGE 1/1Skip AdContinue watchingafter the adVisit Advertiser websiteGO TO PAGE 1/1Skip AdContinue watchingafter the adVisit Advertiser websiteGO TO PAGE I don't want to take my life.. but cba anymore Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leila22 Posted September 16, 2022 Author Share Posted September 16, 2022 What did you even send me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted September 16, 2022 Share Posted September 16, 2022 The attack was not your fault. Are you receiving any professional counseling to help you deal with your trauma? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leila22 Posted September 16, 2022 Author Share Posted September 16, 2022 8 minutes ago, boltnrun said: The attack was not your fault. Are you receiving any professional counseling to help you deal with your trauma? I see a therapist yes. But there judgemental Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted September 16, 2022 Share Posted September 16, 2022 1 minute ago, Leila22 said: I see a therapist yes. But there judgemental How are they judgmental? Maybe time to find a new therapist. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leila22 Posted September 16, 2022 Author Share Posted September 16, 2022 Just now, boltnrun said: How are they judgmental? Maybe time to find a new therapist. He is a creep to put it exact. Therapist before let me talk but he always has to have every word. I also see him checking me out too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted September 16, 2022 Share Posted September 16, 2022 You need to find a female therapist. NONE of this was your fault. If you need more help there is https://www.rainn.org/ 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted September 16, 2022 Share Posted September 16, 2022 21 minutes ago, Leila22 said: He is a creep to put it exact. Therapist before let me talk but he always has to have every word. I also see him checking me out too. Time to find a new therapist. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leila22 Posted September 16, 2022 Author Share Posted September 16, 2022 12 minutes ago, Seraphim said: You need to find a female therapist. NONE of this was your fault. If you need more help there is https://www.rainn.org/ Thank you. 12 minutes ago, boltnrun said: Time to find a new therapist. I'll email them as I don't feel comfortable asking in person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted September 16, 2022 Share Posted September 16, 2022 Just remember abuse and rape is never never never never never your fault no matter what the reason. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leila22 Posted September 16, 2022 Author Share Posted September 16, 2022 Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
limichelle Posted September 16, 2022 Share Posted September 16, 2022 I’m sorry that you’re going through the aftermath of it. It’s been a year since I was raped and I still have days I’m troubled. It was never your fault but as victims we unfortunately feel the blame. I would seek a new therapist a female one if you can. After my incident I have trouble having male doctors even. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarkCh0c0 Posted September 17, 2022 Share Posted September 17, 2022 Honey, I'm so sorry. Please know that I hear your pain and empathize with you 💜 I do suggest a female therapist as well and she'll show you the way to healing and feeling empowered. How's your support network? Do you have people who can support you and listen to you? Are you taking care of yourself? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leila22 Posted September 17, 2022 Author Share Posted September 17, 2022 1 hour ago, DarkCh0c0 said: Honey, I'm so sorry. Please know that I hear your pain and empathize with you 💜 I do suggest a female therapist as well and she'll show you the way to healing and feeling empowered. How's your support network? Do you have people who can support you and listen to you? Are you taking care of yourself? Thank you so much! I do hope I can get a female therapist! Much love x 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leila22 Posted September 17, 2022 Author Share Posted September 17, 2022 I emailed hopefully I'll get a reply Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted September 17, 2022 Share Posted September 17, 2022 Why not use thread titles that would help you such as "looking for new therapist" ? Also it would help if you weren't so snippy with people who responded to your other multiple "tw" threads. Keep in mind that only professional help can treat you. Including the appropriate non profit helpline organizations. "Although the subject has generated political controversy, research suggests that trigger warnings are neither harmful nor especially helpful. Among people without traumatic experiences, "trigger warnings did not affect anxiety responses to potentially distressing material in general."" 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leila22 Posted September 17, 2022 Author Share Posted September 17, 2022 37 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Why not use thread titles that would help you such as "looking for new therapist" ? Also it would help if you weren't so snippy with people who responded to your other multiple "tw" threads. Keep in mind that only professional help can treat you. Including the appropriate non profit helpline organizations. "Although the subject has generated political controversy, research suggests that trigger warnings are neither harmful nor especially helpful. Among people without traumatic experiences, "trigger warnings did not affect anxiety responses to potentially distressing material in general."" Just leave me alone ty. I used a tw to let others know what I was referring to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted September 17, 2022 Share Posted September 17, 2022 I, for one had no idea what "tw"means until I googled it. Keep in mind that net speak is not allowed on the forum. Pleas review the forum rules/guidelines. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrazyWife Posted September 17, 2022 Share Posted September 17, 2022 None of this is your fault. Wouldn't matter if you were wearing skimpy clothing or a potato sack. Rape is not about sex, it is about power and control. I've been raped and know how much emotional hurt it causes. But healing IS possible. Please change therapists. Why have him if he just makes you feel worthless? Have you spoke with specialist organisations? Been for a sexual health check? Please don't think you are alone in this as you are not. Help is out there. You've had the most traumatic thing in the world happen to you and you are still standing. Rape is used to demoralise you but you are seeking help and healing - you are stronger than you know. Again, you have done nothing wrong and please feel free to inbox me at anytime ❤️ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coily Posted September 19, 2022 Share Posted September 19, 2022 I concur with others about seeking out a female therapist, in your state his actions will be viewed differently than the same from a woman. To help you find the tools to deal with this repugnant violation you need someone you can engage with. You have no blame in this what so ever, take everyday slowly and tell yourself that you owe your future-self every effort for the brighter days ahead. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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