Hismama Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 My son is 14 and he has autism. My son’s clinical psychologist doctor we meet him every 6 months in the hospital. The doctor asks about my son for 15 minutes and soon after that he asks about my personal life. I’m single mother. He makes intense eye contact and every time I feel embarrassed and look away. He gave me his personal mobile number and told me to get in touch if I need him. The last meeting I had everyone is with him for 10 to 15 minutes. He kept chatting with me in his room for 2 hours and all that time he is staring at me eye contact....He has told me if I invite him to my son’s birthday he will come. I have also received my next appointment letter which is after 2weeks from last appointment but hospital appointments are usually after 6 months. Do you think he is interested in me and I am interested too so what shall I do Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Seraphim Posted December 19, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted December 19, 2021 He is being very unethical . 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 2 hours ago, Seraphim said: He is being very unethical . Totally agree. Also OP, it would be wrong of YOU to encourage any advances. You are there for your son, not to get involved in flirting with his doctor. You're crossing the line just as much as he is. If he continues in this way you should report him and then change to a new psychologist. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SooSad33 Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 Yup, no need to have a specialists personal number. They have office numbers for contact. You feel uncomfortable around him. This isn't good. Any way you can ask for a different one? ( and if you choose to bring this up with the office- how he makes you feel & handing out his personal number etc- to just make them aware of how he's behaving to his clients). 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissCanuck Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 I don't know which part of the world you are in, but most regulating boards would consider his behaviour a gross violation of ethical conduct. It's not cute when someone in his position takes advantage like this. He likely senses that you are vulnerable and he wants to leverage that, which says all sorts of bad things about this character. Be careful what you wish for. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SherrySher Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 5 hours ago, Hismama said: My son is 14 and he has autism. My son’s clinical psychologist doctor we meet him every 6 months in the hospital. The doctor asks about my son for 15 minutes and soon after that he asks about my personal life. I’m single mother. He makes intense eye contact and every time I feel embarrassed and look away. He gave me his personal mobile number and told me to get in touch if I need him. The last meeting I had everyone is with him for 10 to 15 minutes. He kept chatting with me in his room for 2 hours and all that time he is staring at me eye contact....He has told me if I invite him to my son’s birthday he will come. I have also received my next appointment letter which is after 2weeks from last appointment but hospital appointments are usually after 6 months. Do you think he is interested in me and I am interested too so what shall I do Seriously unprofessional. Many people would consider reporting him, because he is crossing lines, and as a doctor, it's not okay. At the very least, get a new doctor. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 8 hours ago, Hismama said: I am interested Keep your focus on your son. Keep your conversation strictly about your son. Are you dating? You seem lonely. Do you have a crush on him? You need to wrap up conversations in a timely manner. Do not invite him to your home or your son's birthday party. It's inappropriate to flirt with your child's doctor. If you feel he's not a good doctor or inappropriate, change doctors. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 I would switch doctors yesterday. He cannot be unbiased anymore. I also might report him since parents of children on the spectrum are often in very vulnerable/fragile/challenging situations and the last thing they need is a doctor behaving inappropriately. Yes I think he is interested in having sex with you. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 Is he married ? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 I wouldn't be attracted to someone who didn't make my son a priority over flirting or who'd keep other patients waiting for his own agenda. I'd find a new doctor, then I'd report him. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 13 hours ago, Hismama said: I am interested too so what shall I do There's nothing to report, since You are not his patient. He has not made an inappropriate pass or remark. He spend extra time with you perhaps after office hours and gave you his mobile number. So? That's not making a pass or touching you or anything inappropriate. It's normal to ask about the parenting and the household situation of pediatric psychiatric patient. Be careful about ruining someone's profession because you're single and have a crush on them. Where is the boy's father? Do you have shared custody and an organized visitation schedule? Are you receiving the appropriate child support? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose Mosse Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 Ignore. And find another doctor if you feel this is inappropriate. Date someone else. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waffle Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 9 hours ago, SooSad33 said: ( and if you choose to bring this up with the office- how he makes you feel & handing out his personal number etc- to just make them aware of how he's behaving to his clients). Yes, glad you made that plural, because situations like this . . . OP, you are not the only one he is doing this with, either past or present. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 1 minute ago, waffle said: Yes, glad you made that plural, because situations like this . . . OP, you are not the only one he is doing this with, either past or present. Yep, you are not the only one he's doing these things with. So as for being "interested", keep in mind you would be one of many. Unless you don't care if the person you're dating is also dating others, I wouldn't bother trying to date him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 Sounds like this is not his first rodeo. It's possible that he's never been reported, or other women are embarrassed that they fell for his charades. In short, I agree with everyone else...run for the hills. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrina Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 Why are you attracted to someone who would give most others the creeps, with intense eye contact? And why would you not recognize red flags and put up with his BS of unethical behavior with engaging in expanded personal talk to find out more about you? You are prey ripe for predators. I would immediately switch doctors and seek therapy yourself, or at least read books on boosting your own self worth so that you're not eating up the wrong attention and not putting up boundaries to people who try to cross them. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smackie9 Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 Don't do it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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