keefy1972 Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 derrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
providentielle Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 Everyone is here for you during the next two weeks, i know how hard it will be but i'm sure you can do it! Good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keefy1972 Posted May 26, 2005 Author Share Posted May 26, 2005 Thanks providentielle, I appreciate the quick reply. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lifeiscash Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 New to the site but wishing you the best. Working on yourself is what matters most, your doing the right thing. Good Luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brando Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 Sounds like you havea good mind set... best of luck....if you feel like contacting her you can always post it here....it may help Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whiterock girl Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 You are totally doing the right thing. You must feel so good right now! I think I'll take a page from your book and set some small goals as well. It's a very healthy approach to take. And just think of how wonderful you will feel after you accomplish the first, second and third etc...goals, you'll be ready for some bigger ones Good luck, we are all here for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keefy1972 Posted May 26, 2005 Author Share Posted May 26, 2005 derrrrrrrrrrrrrr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keefy1972 Posted May 27, 2005 Author Share Posted May 27, 2005 Okay derrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WebChick Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 KEEEEEEFY!!!!!! I think it's good that you decided to use this thread to post, as it is more appropriate for your dilemma. Day one is hard...heck the first 2 weeks is hard...but once you're over that hump I think you'll coast... somewhat Keep posting, everyday...even if you DON'T have much to say...it will still help Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sonjam Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 hey, I really really hope you keep your promise!! Send a message whenever you feel lonely, one of us will talk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keefy1972 Posted May 27, 2005 Author Share Posted May 27, 2005 HELLOOOOO LADIES!!! How you doin'?? Webchick, are you stalking me? LOL I agree with you though and will do my best to post everyday....even if I dont have a lot to say. Sonjam...I am going to my absolute best to keep my promise. Thanks for the support. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WebChick Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 Stalking??? LOL (innocent look) WHY YES..I am stalking you.. Stalkers need love too you know??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thekillerbunny Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 I think it is very good of you to take that stance. I also think that it will help you realize things when you are away from her, but you need to be careful. Yes, the first two weeks are about making the seperation, but what you really want is not to just hold out, to actually indulge in NOT contacting. Not have it be tough, but have it be something you know you shouldn't do, thereforeeee you don't want to do it. Sorry thats confusing, but I guess what I mean is that deep down you still want to talk to her, and that has to change (i'm going through something similiar). This is a very good first step... realizing the problem. Now, it takes A LOT of hard work and motivation to keep it up. Because you will have a down time in the next two weeks, and, it will hurt like hell, but if you can just keep your chin up, not let the downward spiral happen, you will be proud and you will have taken a step forward. Most of all, good luck and I hope it works for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keefy1972 Posted May 27, 2005 Author Share Posted May 27, 2005 derrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OUTOFTHEBLUE9 Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 Keffy, I'm here for you dude. I've still been following everything from the last thread, but haven't had much of anything to say. I'm always here! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ufoureah Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 ok Iam going to join you as well.. starting today I too shall do this.. I need to get away... I am working on me and becomingt a better person so that I WILL NEVER repeat the same mistakes again. I hope you don't mind that I join you on your post... Today marks day I for me after contacting her and having a major breakdown after 6 weeks of not being with her.. Good luck. I need to get in perfect shape.. D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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keefy1972 Posted May 28, 2005 Author Share Posted May 28, 2005 derrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dakota6560 Posted May 28, 2005 Share Posted May 28, 2005 I wish you good luck with your new found zeal for life. I truly hope you can continue your quest to keep yourself separated from her life. We will be here for you and learning a great lesson from you as well. Godspeed!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OUTOFTHEBLUE9 Posted May 29, 2005 Share Posted May 29, 2005 Keefy, I only have one thing to say, which I have been thinking alot about lately. This site is awesome don't get me wrong here, I love it, and wish I could share it with every person I know that is going through hardship, BUT I think there is a down side to it aswell, in our situation! I have a feeling you might already know this, as you have been a member longer, and V, and Coda, probably know this aswell!!!!! This site, in a way, is keeping us linked, and attached to our exes (not on purpose)! Again, don't get me wrong, I love this site, and I love the advice, I would be No where if it wasn't for the advice from all my friends on here!!! But I can't help it but say that... ummm... for instance.... look at V and Coda in this situation.... they both are doing better, and are using this site less!!! In order to deal with the losses that we all have delt with we need to limit the amount of time we are thinking about the exes, and this site is keeping us thinking about our exes. AGAIN, this is just someting to think about!!!! I have been trying not too come to this site as much as I can, unless I need something, but have been watching every post to our threads. I think this is a great spot to say exactly what you are thinking, but you have to agree, that it is also keeping you attached to your ex. I bet you have already thought of this, as I see you don't post everyday like I was. I'm starting to think that maybee I should join you in this thread as mine also might be a lot cause after what happened last night and today!!!! But more about that later, I think I should be following your lead!!! Cheers to you!!!![/u] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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WebChick Posted May 29, 2005 Share Posted May 29, 2005 Keefyyyyyyyy!!! Congrats on day 3!!!! I am not sure you need to tell her anything...but IF she asks... then yes , be honest. If she can't handle it, then too bad. You have made way too many "concessions" on her behalf, and right now you need to focus on YOU.It's apparent you have been TOO WEAK emotionally to not allow her in your life...that's what maintaining this NC period is for...to strengthen that "emotional muscle" enough to come to that decision. Right now you are still too weak. Please maintain this stance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Dakota6560 Posted May 30, 2005 Share Posted May 30, 2005 Keefy, I must agree that you should not acknowledge her and your comments about what to say if she questions the cold shoulder are dead on. I am glad to see you are still going strong even after the fact that she just had a birthday. That takes a lot of heart. Has she tried to contact you? Well, believe me when I say this you are giving a lot of us inspiration. Keep up the great work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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