makenzie23 Posted October 21, 2018 Author Share Posted October 21, 2018 He knows it won't actually happen. I see... so what does he get out of lying then? Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Well, are there any signifiers that a man is immature for his age other than the obvious ones? I suppose it's possible I'm missing something. What’s his relationship history? What’s his place like? What does he do for a job? What’s his personal style? Link to comment
figureitout23 Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 OPer, you sound quite confident things will succeed, enjoy. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Does he have older kids? Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 I see... so what does he get out of lying then? A hot young little thing such as yourself to have some fun with. He knows if he says the right things, you'll stick around a while longer. Link to comment
makenzie23 Posted October 21, 2018 Author Share Posted October 21, 2018 What’s his relationship history? What’s his place like? What does he do for a job? What’s his personal style? He's never been married and has no children. He has been in more than one long term relationships (10+ years) if I'm remembering correctly. He never had children because the women he was with didn't want marriage or children, and it wasn't an active goal for him. He lives in SF, California in a home that's been divided into condos. He owns half of the home while close friends own the other half and I believe they rent out the third condo. He works in technology in the city, I'm not entirely sure what he does but it involves computers and I know he makes a very respectable salary. What do you mean by personal style? I live in the suburbs so we live about an hour apart. When we met we had a 97% match on OkCupid. Link to comment
makenzie23 Posted October 21, 2018 Author Share Posted October 21, 2018 Does he have older kids? He has no children and he's never been married. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 What would make him want kids in middle age? Especially knowing he may never raise them to full maturity . Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Have you been to his house, OP? How long have you been dating him? Link to comment
makenzie23 Posted October 21, 2018 Author Share Posted October 21, 2018 A hot young little thing such as yourself to have some fun with. He knows if he says the right things, you'll stick around a while longer. That would make sense, except we knew each other for quite some time before we even kissed. He never even asked for me to do anything remotely sexual. Link to comment
makenzie23 Posted October 21, 2018 Author Share Posted October 21, 2018 What would make him want kids in middle age? Especially knowing he may never raise them to full maturity . Well, I asked him if he was open to it (multiple times) and he has always enthusiastically replied that he's into the idea. He has said that our children would be intelligent, quirky, and kind. He also mentioned the fact that I'm young makes for a safer pregnancy. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Well, I asked him if he was open to it (multiple times) and he has always enthusiastically replied that he's into the idea. He has said that our children would be intelligent, quirky, and kind. He also mentioned the fact that I'm young makes for a safer pregnancy. So he is ok with his kids being orphaned? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 He doesn’t sound like he is thinking with his head plugged in. Link to comment
makenzie23 Posted October 21, 2018 Author Share Posted October 21, 2018 Have you been to his house, OP? How long have you been dating him? I have not been to his house, but I have been invited multiple times. I also know where he lives thanks to geotags on photos he's sent me, which I know is slightly stalkerish, but I was just checking. I've been dating him for about 9 months, but I've known him longer. Link to comment
makenzie23 Posted October 21, 2018 Author Share Posted October 21, 2018 So he is ok with his kids being orphaned? I have lots of close family (as does he) so that wouldn't happen. Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 I have not been to his house, but I have been invited multiple times. I also know where he lives thanks to geotags on photos he's sent me, which I know is slightly stalkerish, but I was just checking. I've been dating him for about 9 months, but I've known him longer. Never been to his house in 9 months? Why? How often do you see him? And regarding personal style - how does he dress, hows his hair, etc. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 You've been dating for 9 months and have never been to his house? Why not? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 I have lots of close family (as does he) so that wouldn't happen. Close family doesn’t replace a dad. Link to comment
makenzie23 Posted October 21, 2018 Author Share Posted October 21, 2018 Never been to his house in 9 months? Why? How often do you see him? And regarding personal style - how does he dress, hows his hair, etc. Well this is one of the reasons I need advice I guess. I live at home, with my parents. I hate lying to them, but I have been for sometime now about this. I haven't wanted to go to his house, which is an hour away (so that's at least 2 hours travel time, with no traffic) because I never wanted my family to find out I was sneaking around dating someone without telling them. I want to tell them about him now though. He's so sweet though, he comes all the way to the towns near me and we spend time together. It's really nice. Link to comment
makenzie23 Posted October 21, 2018 Author Share Posted October 21, 2018 Never been to his house in 9 months? Why? How often do you see him? And regarding personal style - how does he dress, hows his hair, etc. He's very well dressed. He always wears button downs, nice pants (I've never seen him wear denim lol), nice loafers. His personal style is one of the things I adore about him. Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Well this is one of the reasons I need advice I guess. I live at home, with my parents. I hate lying to them, but I have been for sometime now about this. I haven't wanted to go to his house, which is an hour away (so that's at least 2 hours travel time, with no traffic) because I never wanted my family to find out I was sneaking around dating someone without telling them. I want to tell them about him now though. He's so sweet though, he comes all the way to the towns near me and we spend time together. It's really nice. This could be the perfect arrangement for you to be a side piece. How often do you see him and how do you know he doesn’t have someone else more permanent? Link to comment
makenzie23 Posted October 21, 2018 Author Share Posted October 21, 2018 Close family doesn’t replace a dad. Yes, that's true. So it's definitely something to think about. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 This could be the perfect arrangement for you to be a side piece. How often do you see him and how do you know he doesn’t have someone else more permanent? That was my first thought too. This situation would work very well for a man who's already married or otherwise spoken for. Link to comment
makenzie23 Posted October 21, 2018 Author Share Posted October 21, 2018 This could be the perfect arrangement for you to be a side piece. How often do you see him and how do you know he doesn’t have someone else more permanent? 1. I've asked him if he's married or has a girlfriend, and he has always said no. Obviously this could be a lie though. 2. He's invited me to his home many times. I've just declined. 3. I've seen photos of his bedroom. There's no way a woman sleeps there, it's too masculine. 4. He travels yearly to visit family, alone. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 I've been dating him for about 9 months, but I've known him longer. So, .... you were only 17 years old....and the guy is older than your father. I'd love to know what your father thinks about all of this. Would be really interesting. Link to comment
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