GoodGumbo Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 So my ex texted me last night after hangout ng in a mutual group. " I still want you". Then after 30 mins of no response he said I'm sorry sweetheart. Y'all I don't need to respond I need to just ignore him. I don't want to cut him because I don't want him to know that it bothers me at all and we are in the same friend group and I'll respond to something that is associated with our friends but. I don't want to respond. Help me say something to make me strong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hollyj Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 Block and delete him. This will keep you strong. And, no more hangouts with mutual friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AutumnBorn Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 You gain nothing by responding. You lose everything by responding. That's all you need to remember. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 What does "want" mean? Does he mean sex? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 When and why did you break up? So my ex texted me last night after hangout ng in a mutual group. " I still want you". we are in the same friend group Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetGirl28 Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 He cheated on you and brings this girl to your group hangouts. Are you seriously asking what to do??? Do not reply to those meaningless texts. Unless you want false hope and like game playing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoodGumbo Posted March 31, 2018 Author Share Posted March 31, 2018 Block and delete him. This will keep you strong. And, no more hangouts with mutual friends. You are right! I thought he was working. I know his shift so I went where just one of my friends were but then he and some of our other friends showed up. It wasnt usual for them to be at this place on this night! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoodGumbo Posted March 31, 2018 Author Share Posted March 31, 2018 You gain nothing by responding. You lose everything by responding. That's all you need to remember. Good luck! Very true! I am not responding cuz I have to end this painful association. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoodGumbo Posted March 31, 2018 Author Share Posted March 31, 2018 What does "want" mean? Does he mean sex? I don't know, probably should take it that way instead of the collective. He may just be looking for an ego stroke-for me to say I want him.. I was pretty good at building his ego. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoodGumbo Posted March 31, 2018 Author Share Posted March 31, 2018 When and why did you break up? Shamefacedly I tell you that he wanted me to be okay with hanging out with other girls he was sleeping with. He lied about sleeping with them. He would tell me they were just friends hanging out with our group and make me feel crazy for being jealous. This didn't happen right off the bat. It happened gradually. The first time he brought a random girl ,new friend, to hang out with us, I ended it but he said she was just a tag along person the group as a whole had invited. He brought her again three months later but texted to ask my permission... I said sure cuz I knew right then that a random girl that is younger than his children by the way, was more important than me. I ended it and have been no contact for going on three weeks until last night. He had texted a question about group things once and I responded politely yet concise and that has been it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoodGumbo Posted March 31, 2018 Author Share Posted March 31, 2018 He cheated on you and brings this girl to your group hangouts. Are you seriously asking what to do??? Do not reply to those meaningless texts. Unless you want false hope and like game playing. Yes, that is the hard part. Knowing this and knowing for sure I'm not crazy now but still hurt more than any thing. Not asking what to do, just for strength and really, Sweet girl, just to get my butt kicked like you did. Thanks.. it's so simple logically but so difficult with the emotions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 Well, if it's sex he's after then he just is sending out feelers to see if you're still hung up on him enough to provide free sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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