larmaesh Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 I met an Italian guy back in November 2017. We’ve been dating since then but nothing serious. There was instant chemistry from the on set and everything was good until I went back to his for some Netflix and chill. He turned really creepy and desperately wanted to have sex with me, begging to give me head and demanding so much sexual things I didn’t want. I had also told him before this that I wasn’t having sex with anyone until I felt it was right and we were in a committed relationship Anyway he ended up masturbing on me that night cause he really wanted to get off After he did everything got extremely weird because of what had just happened and he walked me back home I confronted him about the incident the next time we hungout and he said he didn’t want that to happen again cause it was weird but that he needs sex and I told him that I wasn’t going to until commitment so if he wants to walk away now he should cause it could be another month or months till I’m ready anyway he decided to stay Now here’s the deal. We hungout again recently and after not seeing each other for about 3 weeks there was a lot of sexual tension built. We went for drinks and came back to mine which lead to fore play but then again this CREEP all of a sudden came out I can’t properly explain it but he sort of turned into this kinky pornstar dragging my hair, choking me, forcing me to lick near his bum hole, balls, talking to me really dirty like it was a porn movie and I was automatically turned off I get that some people have a kinky side to them but what I find disturbing that it’s not happening natural but just all of a sudden and I’m beginning to think he is a sex addict hence why just turns so quickly to a different person At this point I want to cut it off cause I’m not into it. It’s not gentle and I’m not being introduced into his sexuality gently but forcefully Or am I overthinking things? We still haven’t connected deeply and sometimes I feel it’s me more so not reaching out cause I’m not there yet But I also justify me not being there cause he hasn’t given me a reason to like I don’t trust him. I barely know anything about him or what he gets up to Anyway I don’t want to be with an addict. Is his behaviour something I should be worried about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 At this point I want to cut it off cause I’m not into it. I barely know anything about him or what he gets up to ^ There's your answer. Plain and simple. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetGirl28 Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 Break up now. This sexual issue wont resolve, he's into way more hard core sex then you are comfortable with He also isn't showing you respect because he knows how you feel about it. Look for someone who holds the same sexual desires you do, without crossing boundaries that make you feel unsafe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glitterfingers Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 First things first, get rid of this guy yesterday. In terms of what is going on with him? Two things. One: Different people have different levels of sexual compatibility - I wouldn't be surprised if there are some women who are a bit more comfortable after seeing someone for a month (some do this on the first date) getting into bed and exploring each other's sexuality. So this just goes to show how wildly different your comfort levels and sexual needs/desires are, and that is something you should not even attempt to fix. Two: He clearly has zero respect for your boundaries. That's the biggest issue here. He wants what he can take from you, and he will push you until the point that you forcefully say no (or get up and physically walk out). If you continue to see him, you are basically telling him his behaviour is okay. I would personally state to him clearly, calmly and politely, "I am not okay with the sex acts you are pressuring me into and the fact that you are so unconcerned about my comfort and willingness to consent. I feel coerced and duped into being alone with you so that you can take advantage of the fact I've let my guard down. I will not be seeing you again" You haven't even got an emotional bond with this guy? It's not a serious relationship - there is no room for negotiation here. He has shown you very clearly the kind of person he is, and it will only get worse as he lets his true colours come out. Get out of this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 OMG please dump this guy now. He is not your type and yes he does sound very creepy. You two are not compatible at all. He's not going to lighten up in his desires, he may well get worse. He's not your kind of guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hollyj Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 Why did you see him a second time? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honeycomb8 Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 If you weren't keen on sex, why did you go Netflix and chill with a guy you just met? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 He just wants to get laid. He's not "an addict", he's confused by your casual netflix and chill dates and allowing him to masturbate on you. If casual sex is not for you then end it. Why allow this?We’ve been dating since then but nothing serious. There was instant chemistry from the on set and everything was good until I went back to his for some Netflix and chill. he ended up masturbing on me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
larmaesh Posted January 11, 2018 Author Share Posted January 11, 2018 Thanks everyone for your advice. I’ve just ended things with him and he seems pretty upset which I cannot understand why but oh well it had to be done Looking forward to better months this year!! I appreciate you all xxxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glitterfingers Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 Thanks everyone for your advice. I’ve just ended things with him and he seems pretty upset which I cannot understand why but oh well it had to be done Looking forward to better months this year!! I appreciate you all xxxx Because nobody likes rejection, even if they aren't actually interested in the person. Don't read into that Take more precautions with yourself moving forward. A lot of men will invite you home, if you're not ready for things to get physical, don't accept. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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