chickpealove Posted October 24, 2017 Share Posted October 24, 2017 So i told him last night that I’m also being affectionate with a friend of his and I asked him if he’s uncomfortable with that and he said not at all . I asked again to make sure and it genuinely didn’t seem like it phased him . My question is , would that make anyone uncomfortable if they heard the other person is Intimate with a friend of theirs as well ? Also emotionally , should I be taking that as he just doesn’t care about me ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetGirl28 Posted October 24, 2017 Share Posted October 24, 2017 He doesn't care because he's not emotionally invested in you. If you are willing to be his booty call, he's going to use you for just that. Any man that wants a relationship would not be okay with this arrangement Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SherrySher Posted October 24, 2017 Share Posted October 24, 2017 Is this real? You are basically sleeping with two guys and are asking one of them if it's okay and he says it's okay. Having a hard time believing this unless none of you have morals or standards. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.man Posted October 24, 2017 Share Posted October 24, 2017 I mean you're being "affectionate" with another dude. How much can you care about him? Play the field if you'd like to, but don't play games with it, mentioning who else you're getting involved with for no reason. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
willdation Posted October 24, 2017 Share Posted October 24, 2017 Agree with the above. Would you like it if he came over to be "affectionate" with ya and said he was just affectionate with another girl 2 hours prior? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickpealove Posted October 24, 2017 Author Share Posted October 24, 2017 He doesn't care because he's not emotionally invested in you. If you are willing to be his booty call, he's going to use you for just that. Any man that wants a relationship would not be okay with this arrangement Neither of us want to be exclusive . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickpealove Posted October 24, 2017 Author Share Posted October 24, 2017 I mean you're being "affectionate" with another dude. How much can you care about him? Play the field if you'd like to, but don't play games with it, mentioning who else you're getting involved with for no reason. I’m a virgin and the other guy is my good friend and we are like each others support system . We are not exclusive by any means . We’re keeping it open but I wanted to Make sure he’s comfortable if it’s someone he knows . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickpealove Posted October 24, 2017 Author Share Posted October 24, 2017 Agree with the above. Would you like it if he came over to be "affectionate" with ya and said he was just affectionate with another girl 2 hours prior? Sorry I should’ve mentioned that we both want to keep things open and not exclusive but I wanted to make sure he’s ok with me being with someone he knows . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickpealove Posted October 24, 2017 Author Share Posted October 24, 2017 The other guy is my good friend and we sometimes are like each others cuddle buddies . Like it’s just cuddling and maybe kissing and affectionate touching . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickpealove Posted October 24, 2017 Author Share Posted October 24, 2017 Hopefully this makes more sense to people now that I remembered to include that we’re both being open about seeing other people. I just wanted to make sure he’s ok with it since it’s someone he knows as opposed to a random . look up what it means to be passionately detached Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mustlovedogs Posted October 24, 2017 Share Posted October 24, 2017 Why is he not allowed to be ok with it but you are? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickpealove Posted October 25, 2017 Author Share Posted October 25, 2017 Why is he not allowed to be ok with it but you are? He is very much allowed . That’s why I asked him if he wasn’t that I’d want to know but he confirmed twice he is . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caro33 Posted October 25, 2017 Share Posted October 25, 2017 So i told him last night that I’m also being affectionate with a friend of his and I asked him if he’s uncomfortable with that and he said not at all . I asked again to make sure and it genuinely didn’t seem like it phased him . My question is , would that make anyone uncomfortable if they heard the other person is Intimate with a friend of theirs as well ? Also emotionally , should I be taking that as he just doesn’t care about me ? To your questions: 1. Yes it would make me uncomfortable. However this is not me, this is a guy who said he was fine with it. Maybe he is. 2. No you shouldn't take it as he doesn't care about you, but his version of caring for you is clearly not in an exclusive way. If that's what you want then this situation is clearly not aligned with your needs. But you then told us you don't want to be exclusive either. Which all leaves me a little confused about what you're really asking, and why. Also, how old are you? You sound young. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mustlovedogs Posted October 25, 2017 Share Posted October 25, 2017 He is very much allowed . That’s why I asked him if he wasn’t that I’d want to know but he confirmed twice he is . Then what's the point of this thread? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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