Jacri Posted September 13, 2017 Share Posted September 13, 2017 Hey guys ☺ just need a little advice So I'm in my last year of secondary school (high school) and I've been friends with these two girls for about four years. One friend (who I may have regarded before as my best friend) is loud, rude and has commitment issues with friendships (you're like an old toy to her every two years basically), but somehow I just always feel the need to make it work because we have a lot of fun together? We make eachother laugh when the friendship is good and have intense political conversations. But whenever I try talking about my feelings (I usually say that I feel like people in school talk to me like I'm a loser bc I'm shy) she says I'm over thinking and says that I'm sensitive instead and gets salty at me instead of giving me advice or being comforting which I always do for her. THE OTHER FRIEND well. She's nice and all or seems nice but whenever me and friend 1 have arguments she always sides with her and helps in excluding me? And I always seem to forgive her? Like just this week I tried discussing my feelings and got shut down then had a long deep conversation with ^friend 2 and we seemed to figure it out but then she just ignored me today and hung out with friend 1 all day and left me alone w my other friend. She seems so fake and I just don't know. I know she prefers friend 1 to me and I don't think I'll talk to her when I leave school but I hate it all the same. We fall out every two years. They ruined my Christmas in 2013, 2015 and now they're getting tired of me again. I know I shouldn't change for them and its distracting me from studying for the most important exams of my life. I dont want to stress more than I have to this year but I don't think I'll be able to control that. I don't know what to do. HALP. PLEASE. AND THANK YOU Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DanZee Posted September 14, 2017 Share Posted September 14, 2017 I do agree you're over-thinking things. I never sat around thinking about my friends in this way. If they wanted to be around me and I wanted to be around them, we just did it! If your friends want to freeze you out, then they're not friends. Make new friends! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honeycomb8 Posted September 14, 2017 Share Posted September 14, 2017 Hey guys ☺ just need a little advice So I'm in my last year of secondary school (high school) and I've been friends with these two girls for about four years. One friend (who I may have regarded before as my best friend) is loud, rude and has commitment issues with friendships (you're like an old toy to her every two years basically), but somehow I just always feel the need to make it work because we have a lot of fun together? We make eachother laugh when the friendship is good and have intense political conversations. But whenever I try talking about my feelings (I usually say that I feel like people in school talk to me like I'm a loser bc I'm shy) she says I'm over thinking and says that I'm sensitive instead and gets salty at me instead of giving me advice or being comforting which I always do for her. THE OTHER FRIEND well. She's nice and all or seems nice but whenever me and friend 1 have arguments she always sides with her and helps in excluding me? And I always seem to forgive her? Like just this week I tried discussing my feelings and got shut down then had a long deep conversation with ^friend 2 and we seemed to figure it out but then she just ignored me today and hung out with friend 1 all day and left me alone w my other friend. She seems so fake and I just don't know. I know she prefers friend 1 to me and I don't think I'll talk to her when I leave school but I hate it all the same. We fall out every two years. They ruined my Christmas in 2013, 2015 and now they're getting tired of me again. I know I shouldn't change for them and its distracting me from studying for the most important exams of my life. I dont want to stress more than I have to this year but I don't think I'll be able to control that. I don't know what to do. HALP. PLEASE. AND THANK YOU I wouldn't know how to respond to a friend that is all 'everyone dislikes me' too. You are overthinking and being too sensitive. It's a downer? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacri Posted September 14, 2017 Author Share Posted September 14, 2017 Idk man maybe it's just my teen brain but they're genuinely not very nice people sometimes? Like one of them wouldn't talk to me for weeks because I forgot to buy glue sticks for a project? That's how jumpy they are sometimes and I feel like I have to be constantly on my guard? I don't wanna be scared of that kind of yknow Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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