Abby0602 Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 Whilst dying to attach photos to an email on my boyfriends laptop I saw a folder called girls. Assuming it would be pictures of his sisters I had a look, but this isn't what I found. Instead it was 23 named and separated folders of girls nudes from snapchat and one of videos of him having sex with his ex. Many of them were from before we were together so I thought he might have just forgotten to delete them. However upon closer looks (because I'd come too far to not know now) I found that many were sent to him during the first five months of our relationship. It was clear to see that he had been encouraging the sending 1. Because of the things the girls were saying to him, making it clear that they were masturbating together and 2. Because he'd taken photos of the snapchats from his iPod whilst receiving them on his phone so obviously was expecting them. It also really hurt the fact that he chose to save them and keep them to look back at for reasons that I think are obvious. I feel like I have been cheating on, even if it isn't physically. Do you think when confronting him about it it's appropriate to say he's cheated on me in a way, or has he just been inappropriate? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glitterfingers Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 Read your other thread... You don't trust your boyfriend. That's a problem. I'm not sure whether it's cheating, depends on whether you guys weren't exclusive during that time. It's up to you to decide that, none of us can tell you what defines cheating, we can only tell you whether we personally would tolerate it. In my mind, unless we've had the exclusive talk then I don't assume that we are exclusive. Once we say we are, I expect us to be and any digression from that would be cheating in my mind. Could I forgive saved snapchats? Possibly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hollyj Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 Of course he cheated on you! What is there to discuss. You should be done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hollyj Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 You have been advised before about this guy and his cheating. Everyone advised you to end it. WHY DO YOU CONTINUE WITH HIM, AND CONTINUE TO ASK IF IT IS CHEATING? How many times do we all need to tell you something that you already know? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IAmFCA Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 What I don't like about a shared masturbatory experience is that it is so easy to replicate. There are no boundaries. This is true for all of us, now, making it even more important to understand what our partners' emotional needs are. For example: If your man needs a lot of validation that he is sexually appealing, if he uses sex to counter stress and anxiety, for example, then are there sexual behaviors you can overlook? I think it is important to understand who you are with and what his capacity is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 How long have you been together? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatwasThen Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 Is he STILL collecting masturbatory material and personally interacting with these women or has it stopped since you have become exclusive? Timelines are important here, I think. So, IS he still at it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lester Posted May 28, 2017 Share Posted May 28, 2017 If you say boyfriend enough times, maybe he'll turn into a real boyfriend? You know better! (I hope) Stop wasting you time/life on this quack. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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