emmyruru1982 Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 He is very insecure in bed and has low self esteem. I'm very sexual and it upsets him? What's going on? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloworm Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 Sex doesnt really interest me either. But boy can this one guy turn me on! I like to kiss and be held and dirty dance in private. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmyruru1982 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Share Posted July 27, 2016 My 42 year old fiance is very bisexual. He is very insecure in bed. What's going on? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmyruru1982 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Share Posted July 27, 2016 Sorry...unsexual not bisexual Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloworm Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 A number of things could have happened in his past. Your both just different, i wouldnt expect him to change. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmyruru1982 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Share Posted July 27, 2016 What kind of things in his past? I just don't understand the constant rejection and excuses to not have sex. Never had this problem. Thank you for reaching out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Birdie Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 Have you talked to him about it or asked him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmyruru1982 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Share Posted July 27, 2016 Have you talked to him about it or asked him? Yes.. He gets very angry. I've cried so much. Him pushing me away has been awful Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmyruru1982 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Share Posted July 27, 2016 Excuse after excuse to not be intimate. Either he's worked too hard and exhausted, too stressed out, the kids are home, etc... If I tell him I want to make love, he acts irritated Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloworm Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 Rejection by females, molestation, porn addiction, former sex addict, hes actually gay, its physically uncomfortable to have sex, He physically cheated on someone and felt guilty, Or he just simply doesnt enjoy it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloworm Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 Yeah its most probably cause he is tired and the kids are in the house... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloworm Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 People can become cranky and angry when they are exhausted. Been there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reinventmyself Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 What's going on? You've just asted rwo minutes writing a post questioning what's going on. His insecurities are his to deal with not yours. Run before he pins his insecurities on you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OBenson Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 How long has it been since the last time you had sex? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmyruru1982 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Share Posted July 27, 2016 A few weeks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gigiselle Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 You need what you need. Don't invest in this relationship if you're not getting what you need. You deserve to find what you need....but---it won't come knocking at your door. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 How long have you been seeing this guy? Was your sex life ever good with him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmyruru1982 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Share Posted July 27, 2016 A year and a half. We had more sex in the beginning and it didn't seem an issue. We got pregnant in November, had our baby 5 days ago and I'm pretty much back to my original body....5'9 150... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 had our baby 5 days ago Only five days ago? From a purely health aspect it is usually strongly advised NOT to have sex for at least 6-8 weeks after giving birth ...(well, at least that's how it was in the "good ol' days"). Your body (internally) needs time to heal. Focus on your newborn. There's plenty of time for sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmyruru1982 Posted July 28, 2016 Author Share Posted July 28, 2016 Yes, you are correct. However I was referring to the entire time we have been together aside from the honeymoon period Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 We got pregnant in November, had our baby 5 days ago Congrats on your baby. That could have a lot to do with it. When did your OB say you can have sex? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 Obviously this has a lot to do with it. Relax and just enjoy affection for now rather than demanding sex right before and after birth. Try not to be so insecure about it. Is he loving/helpful in other ways?had our baby 5 days ago Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quidam Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 What ? Ur first born child has 1 week old and you are mad because hes not having sex with you ?! Sleepless nights + new lifestyle + father + ajusting to the fact you are now a mother Give the dam man a break!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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