JulianAR Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 I'm not even done with day two of no communication and my ex is already texting me with things like, "Are you trying to make me worry?" Now I might be at fault for not telling her, "Hey, I need a break from communication." And I feel that I might go overboard if I continue to ignore her because even after the break up we still texted. I just don't want to break it already and have to start all over again. But she's the insecure emotional type and maybe she needs to know, it's not beyond her to think thoughts like I might be DEAD if I don't talk to her. She's still texting me like right now and I'm holding off talking to her. HELP. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 Why dont you just tell her you need a break from talking to her and ask her to stop texting you? You have to ask for what you want! Worst case scenario is to block her, are you ready to do that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JulianAR Posted June 25, 2016 Author Share Posted June 25, 2016 Well, I'm not gonna block. But if I have to break my NC just to keep her from worrying, then I guess I'd better do that now before it's too late. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JulianAR Posted June 25, 2016 Author Share Posted June 25, 2016 By that I mean in order to start over again without her worrying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shessofly Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 Tell her you will be taking a long break from communication in order to heal and that you will not be responding to anymore of her texts. If she continues to freak out it's really not your problem. She can figure out how to get a handle on her own emotional insecurity; as it's not your job to make her feel better. She dumped you now she can deal with not having you in her life, just as you have to come to terms with her leaving the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 It can't be that much of a concern if you refuse to block her. You're playing right into her hand, and you're as much at fault as she is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maximus007 Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 HeartGoesOn is the resident No-Contact specialist. Listen to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 ^ I've been around here too long. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JulianAR Posted June 25, 2016 Author Share Posted June 25, 2016 As much at fault for what? Should I have blocked her? I ended up telling her I'm taking a break. At this point I'm starting over the NC process. I didn't ruin it by doing that, did I? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JulianAR Posted June 25, 2016 Author Share Posted June 25, 2016 I mean I'm new to this all myself. This is the first serious relationship that I ever had. So is she too. So I dunno if I already messed up or what. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JulianAR Posted June 25, 2016 Author Share Posted June 25, 2016 I mean I can still block. It's probably just pointless now after I told her that I'm gonna take a break from talking to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wolfshook Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 You havent messed anything up,just dont get loored into her breadcrumbs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JulianAR Posted June 25, 2016 Author Share Posted June 25, 2016 Thanks. I'm starting over again I guess but this time I'm focusing on myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dragonfly31 Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 You did the right thing. I asked my person to at least let me know he was alive. No response. It was extremely hurtful. When you care about someone and don't know if they're dead or alive. All I wanted was to know he was ok. If he said yes I'm alive please stop texting. I would have Respected that and stopped. I stopped anyone but why couldn't he just tell me he was ok? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujusamples Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 Thanks. I'm starting over again I guess but this time I'm focusing on myself. @JulianAR, don't be too hard on yourself. You didn't break NC for any particular reason other than to let her know what you are doing before she blows up and does something harmful. It's okay to break NC when it comes to that. You did the right thing by letting her know. That should be the end of it from here on. You already did what you had to. Stay strong, keep up with the no contact. You have to ignore the rest and yes blocking would be a good idea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujusamples Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 You did the right thing. I asked my person to at least let me know he was alive. No response. It was extremely hurtful. When you care about someone and don't know if they're dead or alive. All I wanted was to know he was ok. If he said yes I'm alive please stop texting. I would have Respected that and stopped. I stopped anyone but why couldn't he just tell me he was ok? @dragonfly31, to ease your mind, he's probably okay. He's been fine all this time, I don't think that's going to change just because you haven't heard from him. It's pretty normal not to hear from your ex after a breakup. I'm sorry but all you want is a response from your ex boyfriend more than to know if he's okay. Stop thinking about him, I know it's hard and easier said than done but you have to. For your emotional and mental health sake. Just out of curiosity, what would you do if he answers with NO and what would you do if he answers with Yes? Probably not much you could do right? Except the fact that you are going to repeat this same how are you doing text a few days or even a week from now. Let it go, it will benefit you in the end. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 Yes, send this final text rather than simply disappear without a word. Then she can't play the "I'm worried" card."Hey, I need a break from communication." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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