Brokenheart99 Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 Why do guys(girls too) say they don't want to lose you, they don't but they don't want to feel like something is missing? Why not just break it off? Why the mixed messages? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 Because they don't want to be alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
panther Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 but they don't want to feel like something is missing? I don't understand this part of your question. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brokenheart99 Posted October 26, 2014 Author Share Posted October 26, 2014 That's what I was told "I don't want to lose you. I don't. But I don't want us to feel like something is missing." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 He isn't satisfied with the relationship.... He is wondering if there is something better out there. However, he doesn't want you to go away until he finds someone else. Therefore...he may soon suggest a "break", but not until someone else strikes his fancy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
panther Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 mhowe may be right here. Sometimes a person knows the relationship isn't fulfilling them, yet they don't have the courage to break it off. Maybe the fear of being alone? Maybe the fear of not finding someone who will be a better match? Seems like your partner isn't fully satisfied with the relationship and at the same time he is not sure about breaking up (for several possible reasons, as mentioned, or maybe other reasons that only he knows). On other way I could interpret this, is that even though he feels something is missing in the relationship, he has already created an emotional bond with you and cares for you and knows he will miss you if he breaks up. I suggest you talk to him about this and clarify everything, ask him what he is missing. And then both of you can make the right decision about your relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sportster2005 Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 Don't guess, seek clarification. Ask him what he thinks is missing. If you can't provide what he wants leave him. If he's unsure, you risk leaving or staying depending on if he finds what he thinks is missing in the relationship. This can be attributed to the end of the honeymoon phase. The "you're so perfect phase" has ended. And now without the fantasy of the perfect person the relationship is seen more realistic. This can cause reflection. Sometimes it's downhill form here. Especially with inexperienced people or people with unrealistic expectations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brokenheart99 Posted October 26, 2014 Author Share Posted October 26, 2014 I understand, I guess it's prob better I find someone who can appreciate me. Out of curiosity, is how he feels more of a commitment issue more than something I'm not offering? Like he has had a few serious relationships but hundreds of dates that he can't commit to for various reasons. I don't know, I guess I just like knowing stuff, gives me a sense of understanding to close the chapter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 The person to ask is him. We don't know exactly what he is feeling --- only he does. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brokenheart99 Posted October 26, 2014 Author Share Posted October 26, 2014 Haha I did, he says he doesn't know. He wishes he could answer and has been trying to figure it out for a while but is unsure so he's asking me. I have no idea either. I wish I could help some. I guess it's for him to figure out. But I was just curious on thoughts if anyone had insight or went through similar. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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