secretvegeta Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 Hi, Two years ago, I became friends with a girl on FB. We kinda had heard of each other thru common friends but never had actually met. We started chatting on Fb but as we lived in different cities, we never met. I never actually thought of her as anything than an occasional friend. Only recently she joined grad school in US while I've been here for a year. We finally decided to talk on phone. To my surprise, she talked to me for a long time on phone and I also quite enjoyed the convo. These phone convos have become more frequent an its she who initiates most of the times. She normally tells me a lot of details about her life. But last time she called, she kept talking about how she goes into library trying to flirt with cute guys. I admit I did get a bit irritated by that. She has never talked on a topic like this before. I didn't quite get it. She seems to like me judging by the amount of time she talks to me. Is she trying to get me jealous or something ? How do I go about this ? P.S. Just want to clarify that due to our grad school schedules, locations and other factors, its unlikely that we will meet anytime soon at least for a few months. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DancingFool Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 Who knows...either she is treating you like a girlfriend and so is talking about her adventures with the guys just like she would with any other friend OR she is trying to clue you in that she is single and looking and that you should maybe step up and show some interest beyond just being a phone buddy. Only one way to find out.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpottiOtti Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 If I was romantically interested in a guy, I would never talk to him about flirting with other guys. DancingFool might be right though . . . What have you done to indicate you're interested romantically? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IvanTheTerribl Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 Yup, she's treating you like a girlfriend. The reason is, you likely haven't expressed your interest and intent. As far as she knows, you're just interested in being friends. If you just sit back and let it go without expressing your desire (or interest, at least) to be more than friends with her then she'll just keep treating you as a girlfriend/best friend. This is how people get into the infamous "friend zone." It's not her fault, it's yours. You can't just assume that she likes you by the frequency with which she talks to you. Some people are just really friendly or like to talk. If you ever want to be more than friends with her, you need to find some way to make it clear to her and you have to let her know you're not interested in hearing about her flirting with other guys. Always express your intent and genuine interests early on in any relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
treesandbees Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 Could she be trying to make you jealous or trying to see your level of interest in her by your reaction to her telling you that info? IDK I had an ex who would always tell me about girls who would check him out, walking, shopping, in elevators and I never nice asked or would discuss guys who did the same to me, and I always felt he wanted me to see him as desirable to others or something and tbh tuned me off him, like playing games. If she knows you like her common sense should tell her you don't want to her that stuff, so why tell you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
secretvegeta Posted September 11, 2014 Author Share Posted September 11, 2014 Thank you for your views guys ! Do you have any suggestions on how can I indicate my side to her purely on phone or text ? I mean I could give her indications if I could meet her in person, but I am confused as to how could I express myself just on the phone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 Just let it go --- you can't even meet her for months. That is no way to sustain, let alone begin a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thatdudethere Posted September 16, 2014 Share Posted September 16, 2014 I've been there and it all points out she is trying to make you jealous. I find found it (and still find) those tactics pathetic. If she is a little more like the girl in my experience, you are better off trying elsewhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thatdudethere Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 I've been there and it all points out she is trying to make you jealous. I find found it (and still find) those tactics pathetic. If she is a little more like the girl in my experience, you are better off trying elsewhere. Edith: Just by the "make him jealous" games is enough evidence to find someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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