annie24 Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 Does anyone go on a job interview and talk about how they stole from their last employer?? Then why do guys talk about cheating on their exes??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YouCanDeleteThisAccount Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 I've never cheated, but I would imagine some jump the gun to that discussion as a purge of past sins. Clearly was a topic that should not have been discussed at that time, but really he did the right thing. Imagine had he not mentioned it and MM started falling for him. Then he would have been a creep for never mentioning it "before now". It's a hard win for him to have the right time to mention it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WithLove Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 I've never cheated, but I would imagine some jump the gun to that discussion as a purge of past sins. Clearly was a topic that should not have been discussed at that time, but really he did the right thing. Imagine had he not mentioned it and MM started falling for him. Then he would have been a creep for never mentioning it "before now". It's a hard win for him to have the right time to mention it. Hot button topics are really hard to introduce. I had a ex that didn't tell me he had been previously married and had a kid with her until we had dated for a month. (There's a reason why he's my ex!) I asked him why he hadn't told me sooner; it's not that he had been married and had a child, but that he just didn't even tell me. He told me that most women don't want to deal with a prior wife and child; and I guess that's understandable, but you can't just lump all women together into the "won't want to deal with this" category. For similar reasons, I never know when to say that I have depression and anxiety and take medication for it. I feel like... 'most men' think that means I'm just this crazy woman that has to take pills. And that's not the truth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 21, 2016 Author Share Posted January 21, 2016 It wasn't so much the fact that he had cheated, it was the way he said it...as if it was an achievement Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 21, 2016 Author Share Posted January 21, 2016 I just talked to a new guy online. Steve, 44, divorced with 2 boys (11 and 8 ), works at a company and lives about 15 mins away at a neighbourhood I know very well as a close friend lives over there. He's very good looking (at least in his pics), writes very well and I enjoyed our chat. The problem (of course there would be one!) is that he works long hours (9 to 9) and he's only free either after 9pm or weekends. Anyway, we didn't exchange phone numbers or anything, we just both said we'd like to talk again..so, we'll see if it leads to a date or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 22, 2016 Author Share Posted January 22, 2016 I talked to Steve again. He said that when the weather gets better (it's just cold today), he will invite me to meet for a glass of wine. I said I don't drink and how about coffee...half an hour later, no reply. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 22, 2016 Author Share Posted January 22, 2016 He replied 2 hours later with 'when I go out, I have wine but if you insist on coffee...' Blocked and deleted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reinventmyself Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 He replied 2 hours later with 'when I go out, I have wine but if you insist on coffee...' Blocked and deleted. Really?!. . he could have just been being playful. Do you not date men that drink wine? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 22, 2016 Author Share Posted January 22, 2016 Really?!. . he could have just been being playful. Do you not date men that drink wine? If they just drink wine, yes. If they insist like he did, no. I didn't like his way at all...and he wasn't playful, all the conversation had been very serious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 My best guess was that he was kidding but it was foolish to joke by text, with a stranger. I would have clarified whether he meant it as a joke. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reinventmyself Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 ^^ I second that. It's often impossible to discern someone's meaning in written form without hearing the inflection in their voice and tone. Why assume it's bad when you could have equally assumed it was playful? You had nothing to lose by finding out exactly what he meant by it. Just sayin' You are one tough customer, MM Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
faraday Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 I think after working a 12 hour shift I would prefer to drink something stiff I can't drink anything with any caffeine (even green tea or decaf coffee) after about 3pm or I'm up until 5 am. However, a drink or two...will perk me up for an hour or two, and then I'll be able to sleep wonderfully. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Realitynut Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 I also took it as playful! But I'm a playful kinda girl....;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 It just all seemed too vague for my taste. It was online, he hadn't asked for my phone number, it wasn't even an actual invite on a date (if it was - 'how about having a drink on Friday', for example - I would have asked him if he was joking) and the 'when the weather gets better' was just stupid...it's winter...it will be cold until...ummmm...spring? It wasn't raining/snowing or anything of the sort. Plus, I'm experienced in chat. We had chatted for 2 hrs all in all and he hadn't made a single joke, so, why would I think he was joking about that? Meh, it would be a waste of time to continue talking to him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notalady Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 He may very well have been joking, but I agree that the whole waiting till the weather gets better thing was too vague, I don't like it either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 2 new guys. a/ Colin, 49, a football coach, 5'9, dark hair/green eyes, good-looking, divorced for 7 yrs with a 14yo son, lives half an hour away. We talked both online and on the phone - he called me. Everything seems to be ok about him, he loves animals, he sounds very nice, etc, etc, but, the problem is he works from 2 to 9pm and he gets his son in the weekends. We did say we 'must meet over coffee' but I've no idea how or when that can happen! b/ Gabe, 50, a cruise organizer, 6'2, light hair/brown eyes, good-looking, too, divorced for 14 yrs with a 18yo daughter, lives 10 mins away. We've only talked online so far (once) but he seems to be normal enough, a bit more serious than Colin (who has a good sense of humour) but interesting to talk to. We said we'll talk again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 Second guy deleted already. We talked a couple more times since this morning and it was like pulling teeth. He answered my questions and then he stopped talking, he never asked me anything. I wasted enough time on him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 One more guy (it's the weekend...lol). Morgan, 54, divorced with 2 grown up sons (30 and 19), lives relatively close to me, works at a company, 6'2, shaved head/dark eyes, attractive and very good in communication, at least in writing. We talked for a long time, our style is very similar, he told me he likes me (which, I guess, is a given when someone messages you but, still, not many guys actually say it) and he seems to be one of the more normal ones. No mention of phone but he asked me when I'll be online tomorrow. If we do talk tomorrow again, I'll give him my phone number. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 24, 2016 Author Share Posted January 24, 2016 Colin got deleted, too. First message by him this morning was a heart and when I replied with a smiley, his comment was 'mmmmm nice tongue' Thanks but no, thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue_Skirt Posted January 24, 2016 Share Posted January 24, 2016 First message by him this morning was a heart and when I replied with a smiley, his comment was 'mmmmm nice tongue' O no, you don't need that. Sounds like your "delete button" had some work this weekend Miss Marple! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 24, 2016 Author Share Posted January 24, 2016 O no, you don't need that. Sounds like your "delete button" had some work this weekend Miss Marple! Yes, unfortunately! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 24, 2016 Author Share Posted January 24, 2016 One more new guy. Tyler is 51, 6'3, brown hair/eyes, good-looking (apart from a big nose..lol), a cafe owner, divorced with a 7yo son and lives half an hour away. We talked briefly online last night and he asked for my phone number and called me just now. His voice was very much to my liking and his style, too. We have some things in common, he's a smoker, he loves animals, he loves to talk and debate, he's also looking for a serious relationship and I liked his laughter very much. We disagreed on a few things (like when I asked him his star sign..lol..he's a Leo, by the way) or when we talked about our online experiences (he believes that from the phone you can tell a lot about someone - I disagree), but, in general, I enjoyed our conversation. The problem is that he gets his son 3 times a week and, sometimes, on the weekends, too (he has him this weekend)...but he said it won't be a problem to meet because 'when you want to find the time, you find it'. He said he'll call me this week to arrange a date because meeting in person is his ultimate goal. We'll see how this goes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 24, 2016 Author Share Posted January 24, 2016 And one more...lol. John is 46, 5'8, shaved head/blue eyes, athletic, single, no kids, lives close to me, works at a company and our conversation online was, well, great. We have many things in common. He's also an only child, he has a cat (blind cat that he had found when she was a kitten and kept her - how sweet is that?), he's a smoker, we like the same things, we laughed a lot and I did something I've never done before...I suggested we meet for coffee tomorrow since we live so close. He said there's a chance he may have to stay later at work (he works 9 to 6) but he'll know in the morning and he asked for my phone number to text me as soon as he knows...and if we can't make it tomorrow, I'll suggest Thursday (Tue-Wed I got the gym). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue_Skirt Posted January 24, 2016 Share Posted January 24, 2016 John sounds interesting, blue eyes, mmmm, and he has a cat, love that! I would not want to date a smoker, but I believe you smoke too, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted January 24, 2016 Author Share Posted January 24, 2016 I would not want to date a smoker, but I believe you smoke too, right? Yes, I smoke. John already texted me that I made his Sunday better and wished me a good evening Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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