NorthDallas40 Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 ND, I'm not sure why you quoted me on 'I said I should go after an hour' or that I said he didn't have to pay for me...I do that in all my dates. You may do that on all your dates (or... not, as you point out! ), but for most first dates those are sure signs that the woman's interest level is hovering around zero. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
faraday Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 You may do that on all your dates (or... not, as you point out! ), but for most first dates those are sure signs that the woman's interest level is hovering around zero. Really? I always told people prior to meeting that I wanted to meet for a quick coffee or a quick walk. And I would joke, "And that way if we don't like each other we aren't stuck together for a 2 hour dinner" and they all seemed to appreciate that. If things were going good- often times first meets/dates would run 2-3 hours because we'd be so immersed in talking that we wouldn't notice the time. But if they were lame meets, we would be checking the time, and they would end around the hour mark. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthDallas40 Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 If they were lame meets, we would be checking the time, and they would end around the hour mark. Which was my point! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted July 8, 2015 Author Share Posted July 8, 2015 The date with Peter was fun. He's not exactly my type looks wise (a bit too thin for my taste) but he is my type personality wise. He laughed with all my jokes and he joked himself, too...but he was serious when we talked about serious things. Also, it was easy for him to follow different subjects at the same time (I do that all the time and many guys can't keep up with me). There were no awkward silences except some moments when he stopped talking and stared at me (not in an annoying way). He made some comments that showed he liked me..without actually complimenting me on something specific...I found that cute. He talked about his family a bit but, mostly, we talked about stuff like holidays, funny stories from the past, friends (he's very sociable), music and politics..and he is an interesting conversationalist - very important for me. He asked me if I wanted to go somewhere else after the coffee we had but I suggested we do that some other time. He also asked if I liked his company and if I'd like to see him again - I said yes and yes...and, finally, he called me about an hour after the date to repeat he had a great time and that he hopes he'll see me again soon. A good evening Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WithLove Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 Finally, some good manners! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notalady Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 Good to hear your date with Peter went well! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silverbirch Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 Oh Yay, at last! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luminousone Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 All right! A few interesting prospects finally!!!! Let's see how they pan out in time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted July 9, 2015 Author Share Posted July 9, 2015 Peter texted me this morning I don't know what you're thinking but don't worry, you'll see me again (humour and stuff)....which made me laugh out loud because during our date I teased him a couple of times for his sense of humour I replied oh, good, I was soooo worried! good morning, duck (he told me his friends call him duck because, well, he looks a bit like a duck..lol) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notalady Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 LOL so this is what came to my mind image removed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted July 9, 2015 Author Share Posted July 9, 2015 LOL, notalady, ok not so bad but close Oh, by the way, I saw Neal on the site last night (he's on my list). He didn't talk to me and I didn't talk to him. One more case of weird behaviour. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted July 9, 2015 Author Share Posted July 9, 2015 The Jon story is over. He messaged me on the site today. Apparently, he was off work. I asked how he's doing, how come he's off work, etc, he replied and added a few more things about his job. Then himself and how valuable he is at his workplace. Then a song he was looking for on the computer. 15 mins went by like that...during which he never once asked how I am...and well, I'd had enough. This isn't discretion, this is self-absorption. So, I said something like 'I'm fine, too, by the way, thanks for asking'...and he goes 'gee, what did I do wrong this time?'....at which point I realised that there's no way I could ever be with a guy like that...so, I said 'you know what, your ego is too big for me...good luck, I'm out' and he said 'ok' and that was that. And now I feel relieved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted July 9, 2015 Author Share Posted July 9, 2015 George emailed me on the site...2 days after I took him off my list you're funny...you deleted me! I didn't reply, of course. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick974 Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 If hes going to be an @ss, just dont only delete him, block him. Him or another. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted July 9, 2015 Author Share Posted July 9, 2015 If hes going to be an @ss, just dont only delete him, block him. Him or another. If he emails me again, I will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 It's also possible he would be different in person or on the phone but given his lie and the other "flags" I agree. Sometimes messaging becomes a little one-sided because of the mechanics of it, etc. but he's not a good match for you otherwise, I agree. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notalady Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Geez about Jon. Glad you got rid of him. I don't think that messaging made any difference. It doesn't take much to message "I'm well, how are you going?" rather than going on and on about his job and how important he is. *vomit* Also the "what did I do wrong this time?" um what?! Where did that even come from? Also, very passive aggressive. Anyway you dodged a bullet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Geez about Jon. Glad you got rid of him. I don't think that messaging made any difference. It doesn't take much to message "I'm well, how are you going?" rather than going on and on about his job and how important he is. *vomit* Also the "what did I do wrong this time?" um what?! Where did that even come from? Also, very passive aggressive. Anyway you dodged a bullet. Yes you are right (that is how it works for me) but as we all know, communication on text can be different/difficult/misinterpreted so that needs to be factored in especially with a new person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted July 9, 2015 Author Share Posted July 9, 2015 If I hadn't already met him in person and knew that that was exactly what he was like in person, too, I wouldn't be as annoyed. But I did and exactly because of his love for the word 'I', I was hesitant about a second date...today I got convinced that there was no need to see him again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 If I hadn't already met him in person and knew that that was exactly what he was like in person, too, I wouldn't be as annoyed. But I did and exactly because of his love for the word 'I', I was hesitant about a second date...today I got convinced that there was no need to see him again. Absolutely -I agree - I think it was more pronounced over text because it is texting and because partly you were looking for it because of his I thing and other reasons. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted July 9, 2015 Author Share Posted July 9, 2015 Bill called and asked me out for Saturday. He's going to pick me up and then drive me back home. I don't know how this second date will go but he seems to be so nice that I really hope there is some chemistry between us this time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthDallas40 Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Also the "what did I do wrong this time?" um what?! Where did that even come from? Also, very passive aggressive. Agreed. Lame. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted July 10, 2015 Author Share Posted July 10, 2015 Peter texted me and we exchanged a few messages. After some general stuff, he asked when I'm free to meet again. I said Monday and he goes 'what??? aren't you free before that?' I said no, I've made plans for tonight and tomorrow and expecting a visit on Sunday, so my first free day is Monday. He said ok, we'll talk..and I said ok but let me know before Sunday...he said he will. I wasn't thrilled at all. First, he asks for a second date by text, then he finds it strange that I've made plans for my weekend (it's Friday afternoon here!) and then he doesn't even make sure we have a date for Monday! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notalady Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 Hmm yea his reaction is weird, why is it so hard to believe you've already made plans for the weekend by Friday afternoon.. Perhaps he's used to women accepting dates last minute.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted July 10, 2015 Author Share Posted July 10, 2015 Bill texted me asking how I am and wishing me a good time tonight (I had told him I'm going out with friends). I thanked him and we said we'll see each other tomorrow. So far, he shows the right amount of interest without being clingy..I really like this guy..I just don't know if my friendly feelings for him can change..but we'll see. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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