missmarple Posted February 3, 2015 Author Share Posted February 3, 2015 Tell us more about this new guy. I don't know much more to tell. I know he's a smoker and on the phone he sounded normal enough. Also, he's into religion and stuff (which I'm not but he said it doesn't matter to him in a partner). He laughs a lot, has a deep voice..and that's about it. We only talked for 15 minutes on the site and 15 more on the phone...but the date is in a couple of hours, so, I'll soon give you a full report Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 good luck!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larkin Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 I barely remember what Pedro looks like... You said he's the spitting image of Jake Gyllenhaal. "If this new guy pans out, I'm gonna hafta quit you, Pedro." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TwixSense Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 I can't wait to hear about the new guy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted February 3, 2015 Author Share Posted February 3, 2015 Well, the new guy...Jim. There's good news and bad news. Good news: he's better looking than his pics (I would go as far as to call him sexy), there was some chemistry between us, he's talkative, we have some things in common (also divorced without kids and a similar sense of humour), he's polite (paid for my coffee) and..this is where the good news stops..lol Bad news: he didn't ask me ONE single question about me in an hour and a half..and the few things I said about myself he hardly paid any attention to. He was talking about himself all the time...how he was at school, about his hobby (painting), his job, his ex wife, his church...and then about 30 mins of politics with the conclusion that we're doomed as a country because of bad politicians..lol When it was time to go, he said we'll talk soon which I doubt...maybe HE'll talk but I don't think I will When I got home Pedro called me. Some more whining about how he doesn't earn enough money although this time he explained more. He's paying off a loan and half of his salary every month goes to that. I was tempted to ask him 'since you're in such a situation, how on earth did you think it was a good idea to meet someone who lives 2 hrs away?' but it was pointless....and ofcourse he said nothing about meeting again. Tonight, I found our conversation quite boring...after about 10 minutes I told him I have to go to bed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick974 Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 So MM has said it... She Is Greek. Jk... Sorry about Jim. The fact someone doesnt ask anything is usually bad news. Ive had it happen too and didnt lead to anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reinventmyself Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 Don't get discouraged! (and that's happened to me as well. You walk away shaking your head after they say they can't wait to see you again, yet they know nothing about you and didn't come up for air long enough to ask) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DancingFool Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 Do you think he was just nervous and having verbal diarrhea? If that was the only thing, you might consider giving him a few dates to chill out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TwixSense Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 Can you ask Pedro if he intends to meet with you ever again? lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reinventmyself Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 Can you ask Pedro if he intends to meet with you ever again? lol No! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happpybear Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 I'm sure if she asks Pedro, he will likely be all charming but evasive...saying a lot, but confirming nothing... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TwixSense Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 We want to know MM No more guessing lmao Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 hen I got home Pedro called me. Some more whining about how he doesn't earn enough money although this time he explained more. He's paying off a loan and half of his salary every month goes to that. I was tempted to ask him 'since you're in such a situation, how on earth did you think it was a good idea to meet someone who lives 2 hrs away?' but it was pointless....and ofcourse he said nothing about meeting again. Tonight, I found our conversation quite boring...after about 10 minutes I told him I have to go to bed. geez. he needs to get his act together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie2006 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Do you think he was just nervous and having verbal diarrhea? If that was the only thing, you might consider giving him a few dates to chill out. First time posting on your thread but I agree with DF. On the whole, I'd agree with you in that it doesn't always bode well if your date dominates the convo and hardly asks you any questions. But sometimes they can be nervous, sometimes they can be excited and feel comfortable enough to "gab" as they would with someone close. I guess you're in the best position to assess the situation, but please do consider giving him another chance? Also, I agree with everyone else that you should drop Pedro and give Mike a real chance to show you how he feels about you Good luck! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted February 4, 2015 Author Share Posted February 4, 2015 I don't know if Jim was nervous...it did take him about 45 minutes to look at me..lol. He was talking and looking at the ceiling, the cafe, the floor, the table, his coffee..anything but me..if I was less confident, I'd think I must be very ugly However, I don't think he had any reason to be nervous..he's been on the site for years and he's met many women from what he said (I asked him). Anyway, he doesn't have that much free time, he works 6 days a week and has one day off and next week that day is Friday, so, if he does ask, it will be in a week from now and I'll have the time to decide if I want to see him again. About Pedro, indeed, last night the thought crossed my mind to ask him if he plans on meeting me again but I decided against it...because I myself I'm not sure anymore that I want to see him again. All those things he told me (about his loan, his financial situation. stuff he told me about his parents that I didn't want to write here etc) are just too much for me when they come from someone I've only met once..20 days ago. I don't think he's lying, I think my instinct about him is correct..that he just has too many problems and all he can offer is some conversations here and there because he feels lonely in that town. Frankly, last night, if I wasn't polite, I would have told him it's pointless to keep emailing/calling me..I don't want a phone buddy. Finally, about Mike, I am giving him a chance as long as I don't have to change my character to suit him. I'll call him today to ask about his mum and I'll go out with him if he asks..but the rest he has to do himself..not because of Pedro (definitely not because of him) but because it's how I am. I just can't make the first move and, especially, when I'm not sure about the guy...it wouldn't only be against what I want (which is a confident guy) but also unfair to him if I did something first (like kiss him or hold his hand) and then said 'you know what, I'm not feeling it'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted February 4, 2015 Author Share Posted February 4, 2015 I called Mike and we talked for 20 minutes. His mum is doing better, she'll probably leave the hospital on Friday. We talked about general stuff like good friends and that was that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted February 4, 2015 Author Share Posted February 4, 2015 Jim took me off his friends' list...maybe he thought that my 2-3 comments in 90 mins were too much =P~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notalady Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Jim took me off his friends' list...maybe he thought that my 2-3 comments in 90 mins were too much =P~ Haha, oh well at least you know where he stands (not to your disappointment im sure)! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reinventmyself Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Jim took me off his friends' list...maybe he thought that my 2-3 comments in 90 mins were too much =P~ . . his loss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 Jim took me off his friends' list...maybe he thought that my 2-3 comments in 90 mins were too much =P~ lol. good riddance. let him perform conversational masturbation elsewhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie2006 Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 . . his loss Definitely. Onward and upward, as they say... Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
faraday Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 lol. good riddance. let him perform conversational masturbation elsewhere. I love that lol Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmarple Posted February 5, 2015 Author Share Posted February 5, 2015 Today, taking a friend's advice, I called Mike and asked him if he wants to meet for coffee in the afterrnoon. He said yes and sounded very happy that I asked him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie2006 Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 Yay! Hope you have fun Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 Have fun!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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