Snow2tears Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 so basically i was with my friend today and he smokes, i was just waiting for him to finish so we could go study. he asked if i wanted to try and out of curiosity i did. but i know for sure that i would never do it again. EVER. but someone saw and told my ex and he confronted me today. i know he cares but the real deal is that. ever since he told me to not message him because "i needed space to heal" so he never contacted me since. and since then ive been getting over him. and now i feel like yes we do care about each other but never will we get back together. im over him now. but it hurt because you just dont drop someone out of your life like that when you decide to be friends and only when i did something stupid did he actually message me. i dont want to sit there convincing him that im over him. and hes saying that he thinks im not or else i wouldnt be "hurt or angry". what do i do..... Link to comment
Snow2tears Posted September 18, 2013 Author Share Posted September 18, 2013 the thing is i still want to be his friend, i dont want any bitter feelings at all. but i feel like its too late now. we go to the same school and have the same group of friends. what do i do to just be friends with him. we dont have any feelings any more Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 tell him to mind his own business Link to comment
Snow2tears Posted September 18, 2013 Author Share Posted September 18, 2013 lol thats still being bitter though Link to comment
alli Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 tell him to mind his own business Ditto. He's not your parent. He's not even your boyfriend. If you weren't talking to him at all I would continue to do just that. Funny that someone decided to "tell on you" to your ex. So mature! Link to comment
alli Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 You could say it more eloquently. "Your concern for my well-being is noble, however you don't need to concern yourself with what I do or don't do now that we aren't dating. All the best" Link to comment
Snow2tears Posted September 18, 2013 Author Share Posted September 18, 2013 the thing is i still want to be able to be his friend. i know hes concerned because hes my friend. Link to comment
alli Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 You can have a friendly tone while simultaneously refusing to discuss it. It's not his business anyway! Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 the thing is i still want to be able to be his friend. i know hes concerned because hes my friend. well lets get the context right here ..... you are saying he is concerned because he is your friend , but to start with you said ever since he told me to not message him because "i needed space to heal" so he never contacted me since. and since then ive been getting over him. and now i feel like yes we do care about each other but never will we get back together. im over him now. but it hurt because you just dont drop someone out of your life like that when you decide to be friends and only when i did something stupid did he actually message me. so really he isn't a friend is he Link to comment
Snow2tears Posted September 18, 2013 Author Share Posted September 18, 2013 sigh you guys are right. he just said that usually after a break up youre supposed to drop someone. Link to comment
Snow2tears Posted September 19, 2013 Author Share Posted September 19, 2013 i told him, " actually no, you drop someone you dont want in your life anymore, and after a break up you give space and when youre ready then you can be friends" he just said "okay whatever" so im guessing that means he doesnt want me in his life anymore. at least i can move on Link to comment
alli Posted September 19, 2013 Share Posted September 19, 2013 Well at least that was taken care of quickly! Link to comment
Snow2tears Posted September 19, 2013 Author Share Posted September 19, 2013 i guess... Link to comment
sportsguy9981 Posted September 19, 2013 Share Posted September 19, 2013 The only person you need to convince is yourself, not him. Don't tell him anything.. move on like you should, by yourself, and then you will find the life that you want. Why convince someone that you are over him when he didn't care enough to still be with you in the first place?? Link to comment
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