oglez1990 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Not sure if this is the right forum but here goes. A girl (Kate) and I were dating after meeting online but we stayed friends. But things have gotten pretty sour! Ill explain. I started using the same site I met Kate on and started talking to a girl named Kirsty. We got onwell, she gave me her number and we were ttexting. We were getting on well until she told me she was Kate's best friend and she said we couldnt talk anymore (which I fully understood). I was completely oblivious...how was I supposed to know? I told Kirsty that we need to tell Kate but she insisted on it as she knew her best. Kate sends me a very angry text a few days later and demands that I delete her number. Looking back I should have told her instead of Kirsty, so I know I messed up there. Maybe im in the wrong but what do you think? How can I remedy this weird situation so that my friendship with Kate is still intact? Its been a few days since we spoke, ill try ringing her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 I don't know if there's any point. You can try but it doesn't sound like Kate is interested anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChellyV Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Just let it go. Nothing will come out of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oglez1990 Posted August 11, 2013 Author Share Posted August 11, 2013 Its not that I want to date Kate again...we both want to stay friends and I'm happier with that. I just want us to be friends again and I want to make it up to her. Hopefully if we don't speak for a bit and let the dust settle we'll be fine? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Me82 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Yes, maybe. But, I went on a date with a guy and I was thinking about giving another shot with him, since I didn't really liked him, but then he "winked" to my sister online, 2 days after I met him, so, sorry I never went out with him again, and he doesn't even know why! But why would you want to be friends with someone you met online anyways? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 It's not uncommon for people to pursue others online, especially after just 1 date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunnykins86 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 IMO you didn't do anything wrong. You and Kate decided to be friends that means your single so it's pretty obvious at some point you would look for someone else to date. Unfortunately it was her friend but you did the right thing by deciding to tell her. Even though it's hard letting go of friends maybe it's for the best. I hate to say it but it sounds abit like jealousy on her part at the end of the day you are free to chat to whoever you like. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
potd2009 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 I agree that you didn't do anything wrong, but I can see why she found it awkward. In any event, sounds like the best approach for now is treating this as water under the bridge. She may not be particularly available for a friendship with you right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oglez1990 Posted August 12, 2013 Author Share Posted August 12, 2013 I feel it was wrong that her friend told her not me. Its not like I was trying to hide it from her, Kirsty insisted on it as she knows her much better. That's where I probably went wrong. I was in the right if I wanted to look for someone else but how was I supposed to know Kirsty was Kates friend? I'm on a mini vacation and haven't spoke to her for a few days, maybe that'll help blow things over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.man Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 Stop trying to complicate their friendship and let it go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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