asdf Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Basic question for the girls: What can a guy do to make himself seem more approachable? I don't mean more attractive. Just how can he be less intimidating? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luciana Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Smile. A sincere smile, a good man's smile, not a seductive sleazy smile if you know what I mean.. Look into her eyes. Smile with your eyes. Don't look at her chest (not in the first 3 dates!), Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azanthis Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 He can start by being himself. If that doesn't work, nothing will Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
behind_these_eyes Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 I definitely agree with Luciana. Smirking is so intimidating..it's like they're up to something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asdf Posted November 16, 2004 Author Share Posted November 16, 2004 I definitely agree with Luciana. Smirking is so intimidating..it's like they're up to something. ah, so that's what i've been doing wrong... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evelyn99 Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Smile is right. Focus on her, on what she's saying, listen patiently, smile and nod as she talks. Don't talk so much about yourself. Let her know that you find her genuinely interesting - not as a potential bedmate but as a real person. Ask questions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
belljar02 Posted November 17, 2004 Share Posted November 17, 2004 I usually give any guy a first date, ugly, fat, handsome whatever. He has to be pretty gross for me not to.. I guess I am flattered that they are interested in me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyboop401 Posted November 17, 2004 Share Posted November 17, 2004 definitely a sweet smile, a sense of humour and a clean look. I don't mean you have to be brad pitt, but just a bit of personal care. And kinda brought up in here - do guys think smirking is a way to get girls to approach them? Is there a reason for smirking over smiling? Betty! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asdf Posted November 17, 2004 Author Share Posted November 17, 2004 And kinda brought up in here - do guys think smirking is a way to get girls to approach them? Is there a reason for smirking over smiling? Betty! i always thought smirking was more fun and playful Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tea Posted November 17, 2004 Share Posted November 17, 2004 Smirking is such a turn off for me. I like big genuin smiles on guys. Once they start smirking I leave. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RayKay Posted November 17, 2004 Share Posted November 17, 2004 A smile, definitely. It can be a big confident smile, but if it is more of a shy one at first, but he is definitely looking at me...then that's just fine with me. Lots of eye contact when we are talking (or even when we are not). Someone who laughs freely, is comfortable in their own skin, and is a bit flirtatious and is attentive to me. Listens, asks questions, and when I ask them questions, is able to answer them thoughtfully or interestingly, and still flash that smile. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyd00d Posted November 17, 2004 Share Posted November 17, 2004 Okay.. I was thinking about starting a new thread, but I guess I could add here.. I'm not the most confident guy when walking around town or anything (meaning I'm confident in other things).. Actually, a friend of mine, whom I went to town with, told me I walked like a dead sparrow So she was honest about it, and more or less dedicated to help me 'get a girl'. heh. That's really sweet of her.. but she's not around for a while. So I want to do something about that confidence thing. According to her, girls in general like confidence in a guy. My cousin said he always fakes his confidence, and he's got 'em 'lined up'.. So what do I do? When I talk to a girl (usually at the counter or something), I try and look her in the eyes and smiling pretty much goes without saying for me. But I always end up looking around me a lot. Which is an improvement. Because I couldn't look anyone in the eye for longer than a second a couple of years ago. (and yes, I've had compliments about my cute smile. *grin* that has pleasantly surprised me, and I think it always will =) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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