photograph11 Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Hi ENA, Alright, so the other day, there was this beautiful girl who works at my campus library and I decided to approach her. I had no idea if she was straight or gay, but either way I went in with an attitude that I have no expectations, and that life is short so might as well try. So I simply started to chat with her and then told her that I found her pretty, and then she responded positively by smiling and saying thanks. I then asked her if she was a curious/open minded girl, she then responded that it depends and then I told her because I would like to take her out for coffee. She then sort of froze and smiled and hesitated going towards a no and I then said that I'm guessing that she is more into men to which she responded yes. Overall is that a good way of approaching a girl? How would you girls feel if a girl approached you this way (if your straight)? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
becomingkate Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I probably wouldn't use the words "open minded/curious" (makes me thing of sex right away, but maybe that's just me) but otherwise I think it was a nice way to do it. I've been approached by women in a similar fashion, but always clarified that I was straight and declined the invitation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Klokwurk Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Lol. No, that is not a good way. Bwahahahaha. Chat her up, and then somehow slip in that you are gay; if she is too, and she is interested, she will mention it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
photograph11 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Share Posted March 15, 2013 I guess my approach was a bit too direct, but I didn't have time to chat and all, I mean it's easy for you straight people to just ask a person out without having to guess anything so it's the same result at the end of the day, I'm asking her out for a drink if she was interested she would have said yes. I regret saying the open minded part but I meant that if she is open minded to go out with a girl, I sort of got nervous while I was asking her, so I should of asked if she dates girls instead, oh well she still understood what I meant when I asked her out lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
careymarie Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I wouldn't be put off by that, not really. I think it's good to be direct. If she's straight, she's straight - your approach isn't going to change that. If she's not straight, she's either interested or not interested - either way, I think your approach was alright and speaking as a bisexual female, I probably would have been flattered and probably agreed to it if I weren't already in a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MasterPo Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I think you did okay. I bet she's thinking about your encounter though. I wouldn't be surprised if you have another contact with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Natasha24 Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 I probably wouldn't use the words "open minded/curious" (makes me thing of sex right away, but maybe that's just me) but otherwise I think it was a nice way to do it. I've been approached by women in a similar fashion, but always clarified that I was straight and declined the invitation. I agree, don't use the words "open minded/curious". That makes me think you want to invite me back to your room to have kinky sex with 12 other people. I would also avoid telling her that she's pretty. I'm not a lesbian, but guys say that to me and it's an instant turn off (like they are only after my looks). I'm sure a lesbian would feel the same way. I'm not sure there is an easy way to approach women about this. Have you tried the LGBT community/group/club at your school? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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