cupcake22 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Share Posted March 7, 2013 Update alert: He just got engaged to his gf what the fffffffffffffffffff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
junebug123 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 i guess for him to want it more than once sex is like a cupcake, some people enjoy it and keep getting it others move on to: muffins and scones what can i say¿ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huntress0527 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Update alert: He just got engaged to his gf what the fffffffffffffffffff So now you don't have to question it. He used you. Now you can move forward. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doc Blaze Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Update alert: He just got engaged to his gf what the fffffffffffffffffff idk why your acting surprised ...things happen..people go on breaks or break up..get there needs fulfilled then back with each other..it happens all the time you just happened to be his temp. fulfillment Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
junebug123 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 So now you don't have to question it. He used you. Now you can move forward. I don't really think causal sex should be construed as being used. She wasn't exactly dating the guy for any amount of time so what difference does it make. When you have sex with someone you run the risk of getting emotionally attached and possibly hurt, same way guys risk not getting sex at all from females who they date for a period of 2 - 3 months and get no sex at all. Next time, don't invite a guy over for beer and sex and get angry when he doesn't want to make a relationship out of it. Try movies and dates first, you'd be surprised of his intentions before you move on to serious endeavors. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huntress0527 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 I don't really think causal sex should be construed as being used. She wasn't exactly dating the guy for any amount of time so what difference does it make. When you have sex with someone you run the risk of getting emotionally attached and possibly hurt, same way guys risk not getting sex at all from females who they date for a period of 2 - 3 months and get no sex at all. Next time, don't invite a guy over for beer and sex and get angry when he doesn't want to make a relationship out of it. Try movies and dates first, you'd be surprised of his intentions before you move on to serious endeavors. Obviously the OP did become emotionally attached since she questions why he left and then posted what the F in getting engaged to his girlfriend. Casual sex is one thing but she was used because the dude had a girlfriend and she was something on the side. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cupcake22 Posted April 2, 2013 Author Share Posted April 2, 2013 Update: I just found out that his gf is pregnant. Now i do not know if he knew prior to us being intimate, but she would have conceived about 2 months prior to our fling. I know no one cares, but i'm pretty angry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huntress0527 Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 I wouldn't say no one cares. There are a lot of caring people on this site. This is just more evidence to stay away from this guy and focus on moving on. I feel badly for the girlfriend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pl3asehelp Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 I don't think you were used because you didn't tell him what your expectations were, so he assumed you had none and treated you as such. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyNinja Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Sorry you're going through this, but you should move on from this now knowing he's engaged with a child on the way. What exactly is making you angry? Were you half hoping something more would have come out of the sexual encounter? Perhaps a possible relationship? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cupcake22 Posted April 2, 2013 Author Share Posted April 2, 2013 Sorry you're going through this, but you should move on from this now knowing he's engaged with a child on the way. What exactly is making you angry? Were you half hoping something more would have come out of the sexual encounter? Perhaps a possible relationship? I think I'm more angry that he did that to his gf and she has no idea Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pl3asehelp Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 I think I'm more angry that he did that to his gf and she has no idea How do you know that she doesn't know? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cupcake22 Posted April 2, 2013 Author Share Posted April 2, 2013 How do you know that she doesn't know? Well I have assumed it due to the fact his best guy friend didn't know and I do not think it would have escalated so quickly if she knew. But I could be wrong. I just think it was shady for him to pursue me while deeply involved with someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted April 3, 2013 Share Posted April 3, 2013 How long have you known him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pl3asehelp Posted April 3, 2013 Share Posted April 3, 2013 Well I have assumed it due to the fact his best guy friend didn't know and I do not think it would have escalated so quickly if she knew. But I could be wrong. I just think it was shady for him to pursue me while deeply involved with someone else. Lots of people see breaks as a time when they can behave as if they are single. Look up the old Friends episode about 'we were on a break!'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted April 3, 2013 Share Posted April 3, 2013 He didn't "pursue" you, he had sex with you. That's it....and then he left the building....and stayed gone. I wouldn't worry about him any more. Well I have assumed it due to the fact his best guy friend didn't know and I do not think it would have escalated so quickly if she knew. But I could be wrong. I just think it was shady for him to pursue me while deeply involved with someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaintWithLight Posted April 3, 2013 Share Posted April 3, 2013 I think I'm more angry that he did that to his gf and she has no idea Why are you ignoring your part in all this? You basically had sex with a guy without bothering to know his real situation. The fact that he was able to hide this is just more proof that you let him move super fast with you. Part of slowing his roll would have been to delay getting into bed with him until you actually knew who you were sleeping with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cupcake22 Posted April 3, 2013 Author Share Posted April 3, 2013 How long have you known him? We went to grade school together, so probably like 10 years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cupcake22 Posted April 4, 2013 Author Share Posted April 4, 2013 Why are you ignoring your part in all this? You basically had sex with a guy without bothering to know his real situation. The fact that he was able to hide this is just more proof that you let him move super fast with you. Part of slowing his roll would have been to delay getting into bed with him until you actually knew who you were sleeping with. Again this wasn't a one night stand, we knew each other for years. He pursued me for months, flirting, hanging out... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regular joe Posted April 4, 2013 Share Posted April 4, 2013 Again this wasn't a one night stand, we knew each other for years. He pursued me for months, flirting, hanging out... You were a challenge, another notch, now your not anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted April 4, 2013 Share Posted April 4, 2013 Again this wasn't a one night stand, we knew each other for years. He pursued me for months, flirting, hanging out... It was a one nite stand. Just not with a stranger.....and ^ said it best. You were a conquest. Now you are not. You are a hatch mark. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cupcake22 Posted April 4, 2013 Author Share Posted April 4, 2013 Damn you people are harsh. I'm trying to feel better here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regular joe Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Sorry, not trying to be mean. Trying to get you to see the light. You want a relationship and he is in the wind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsallgrand Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 It all makes total sense. He had a gf the whole time, knocked her up, meanwhile was grooming you for a fulfillment of some hard on he had for you when he was younger. He knew all along he would be going back to the gf, probably was never even on a break - just arguing and she was pretending he wasn't fooling around with anyone bc she was pregnant and wanted to believe what she wanted to believe. He left so fast bc he had to get back to her and covering his ass. Next thing you know, engagement. Oh how lovely. Cupcake, if you are really honest with yourself, what were hoping for from this guy? Maybe that will help you feel better, if what you really wanted wasn't a relationship at all but just an ego boost? Is it wounded pride that is making you so angry? He's a douche but you knew this was a fling situation, you knew he wasn't free to pursue anything real with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Damn you people are harsh. I'm trying to feel better here. There's a big difference in what you want to hear, and what you need to hear. Hopefully you'll choose the latter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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