Not a rookie Posted February 6, 2013 Share Posted February 6, 2013 You are losing site of the fact that when a woman is attracted to a guy she will want to know why he is doing certain things like..... 1. not answering the phone 2. not responding to texts in the same day 3. Never being available on Saturday Sorry hon, I almost never call men unless they call me, I am not a texter and I am unavailable on Saturday myself. I wouldn't know what he is up to on Fri/Sat cause I am busy being with friends etc. Some women actually have a life you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeatherB Posted February 6, 2013 Share Posted February 6, 2013 Don't get drunk and crash out at your place on first dates. Makes it seem like that is your lifestyle in general, and that would not appeal to most people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Not a rookie Posted February 6, 2013 Share Posted February 6, 2013 But she will still wonder why that...............one guy.............is no longer giving her attention I would just cross him off my list. I am not into excuses. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeatherB Posted February 6, 2013 Share Posted February 6, 2013 But she will still wonder why that...............one guy.............is no longer giving her attention Yeah, and eventually she figures out he's interested in someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moontiger Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 I don't expect most woman to admit it nor should they. Its funny how men who have trouble dating assume the problem is with the women. Clearly if you can't attract them its the women who are playing games. Sure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moontiger Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 Just be clear, I have guys not call me, and do the things that are on your list (wait three days to call, not be available) and I just assume they are not interested me. I then move on. Why waste time with a guy who acts so disinterested? I was in a three year relationship which started because the guy and I were working at the new student orientation at the college we attended. Every day for a week and half we saw each other. He then asked me to dinner and we were dating after that. No mind games, not tricks. My current boyfriend and I meet at a party he asked for my number and called me the next day to ask me to dinner . We have been together for a year and half. Best friend meet a guy at a bar who set up a date with her that night. They are now engaged. Mom and dad, meet at work, same thing no mind games or drama, now married 27 years. My sister meet her wife at a party, same thing, ask for number, contact the next day, etc. I have never known PUA tricks to work on anyone but really desperate women who are driving themselves crazy to be in a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EssexMan Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 But she will still wonder why that...............one guy.............is no longer giving her attention Or she will just get bored and move on. You don't really win someone by any of these tactics. You might fool them into taking an interest in you, but unless your agenda is just to get between their legs once, ultimately they are going to encounter the real you. So if the real you can't convince them in the first place, you're just setting yourself up for it not to work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Darcy Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 You can attract women you are not attracted to. When I hear this, in real life it often means that you are picky/into women who are "very attractive." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Darcy Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 Its funny how men who have trouble dating assume the problem is with the women. Clearly if you can't attract them its the women who are playing games. Sure. Totally. I don't know where all of these fantasies about women having a line of men waiting for them comes from. Clearly not from the truth (for most women). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve75 Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 Totally. I don't know where all of these fantasies about women having a line of men waiting for them comes from. Clearly not from the truth (for most women). I used to work with a woman who was below average in looks and mentioned having a boyfriend. So if that's the case then what do u think a half way decent looking woman has? That's why it seems like the only options most men have in 2013 is to 1. Share a woman he is attracted to 2. Date down and go out with someone who is not your type Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Not a rookie Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 Totally. I don't know where all of these fantasies about women having a line of men waiting for them comes from. Clearly not from the truth (for most women). If she is feminine and sexy, not ****ty, she will always have a group of admirers. I am not claiming to have the looks of a supermodel but I always had a group of admirers. I look feminine, sexy and I am a good listener. I use these positive traits to my advantage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Darcy Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 I used to work with a woman who was below average in looks and mentioned having a boyfriend. So if that's the case then what do u think a half way decent looking woman has? That's why it seems like the only options most men have in 2013 is to 1. Share a woman he is attracted to 2. Date down and go out with someone who is not your type The sense I get from comments like this is entitlement. Why does a woman I deem unattractive have a boyfriend? Why don't I have an attractive girlfriend? Often people with this mentality are also, ironically, not all that attractive himself. It is interesting to say most men have to 'date down' when I think a lot of my guy friends who complain about being single look pretty terrible (e.g. kinda messy, overweight, etc). Note, being overweight is not terrible. Please do not take that out of context. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moontiger Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 The sense I get from comments like this is entitlement. Why does a woman I deem unattractive have a boyfriend? Why don't I have an attractive girlfriend? Often people with this mentality are also, ironically, not all that attractive himself. It is interesting to say most men have to 'date down' when I think a lot of my guy friends who complain about being single look pretty terrible (e.g. kinda messy, overweight, etc). Note, being overweight is not terrible. Please do not take that out of context. I agree 100% with this. Guys (I personally think because of the media) assume that life will hand then a girl with great looks, a great personality, who is all over her man. When that fantasy is shattered some men start to sulk and blame the women instead of look at themselves and asking, "What can I do to be the kind of person women want?" Reminds me of this: link removed I refer you to point four. With a lot of other good advice it states: "so you're saying that I can't get girls like that unless I have a nice job and make lots of money?" "No, your brain jumps to that conclusion so you have an excuse to write off everyone who rejects you by thinking that they're just being shallow and selfish. I'm asking what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve75 Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 Yes and we all know that is not true because I see plenty of guys with girls who don't male a lot of money. A old friend of mine used to make this statement because he didn't have any money " I can make a girl feel happy because I damm sure don't have any money to give her" LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bauer87 Posted February 11, 2013 Author Share Posted February 11, 2013 Lots of commentary! Maybe I should clarify, I don't know ANY of these dating ideas. I didn't know that inviting a woman over to your place suggests sex. (Ok, I kinda did); but she didn't have to say yes. And did I want to get this woman drunk? ABSOLUTELY NOT. Having A drink takes the edge off a first date. That's why I do it. I was enjoying her company and just wanted the good times to keep rolling. But i see your point. When I have fun on a first date, I want them to continue. So that's why we hung out for a few hours. Did I know that bringing in someone to your home on a first date is a no-no? No. We live in the same neighborhood and I just thought it would be more convenient to leave from one place. I didn't know that was a personal boundary that I shouldn't extend so rapidly. Would you agree that confidence is always sexy no matter who you are, or what you do and that that setting dating boundaries is a good way to leave something to your next date? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Not a rookie Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 Would you agree that confidence is always sexy no matter who you are, or what you do and that that setting dating boundaries is a good way to leave something to your next date? Of course. If I went on a date with a man who set dating boundaries, I would think he is a classy guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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