ecaryn Posted April 30, 2013 Share Posted April 30, 2013 I think your girlfriend should go to a doctor. It's highly likely that her hymen is still intact. Sometimes, some women need a bit of help with this by having the hymen removed surgically which is a simple procedure and done in a doctors surgery This. I can't second this enough. I get the impression that, even though she's in her 20s, perhaps your girlfriend has never been to a gynecologist. Based on what you've told us she's said about past unsuccessful attempts with another partner and her reluctance to go to the doctor now, I would say an intact hymen seems highly likely also. Without knowing you personally, or being a doctor myself to examine you haha, I feel quite certain there is nothing physically wrong with you. You are able to get an erection and maintain it under non-pressure settings. It's only when your performance anxiety comes in to play that you have an issue. That is COMPLETELY NORMAL. As everyone else has said, the only thing to help that is just relaxing and enjoying what you ARE able to do together until your anxieties about sex have diminished. This also applies to your girlfriend as well so that she's not unintentionally clinching or baring down out of fear of painful intercourse. While that is one part of the equation I think the bigger issue is your girlfriend needs to see a gynecologist as stated above. The exam will show if her hymen needs to be removed surgically (not uncommon and not a huge deal) and will allow her access to birth control pills so that you guys can discontinue attempts with condoms. I understand her anxiety and embarrassment about seeing a doctor, especially if she's never been, every woman has those concerns, even if she's been a dozen times before. This is normal. To ease her mind, you or a trusted friend can accompany her for her visit. It may help if she finds a female doctor so she feels more comfortable. Also, she can call the office in advance and schedule a preappointment where she can meet with the doctor and discuss the procedure and any questions she has before the actual exam appointment. Good luck to you guys. This IS resolvable. Hang in there and most importantly... enjoy the experiences! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chrixy Selchi Posted May 4, 2013 Share Posted May 4, 2013 first I want to know the measurement of your penis when its hard.. I advice you to have your girlfriend an ultrasound.. she should go to specialist like gynecologist. I think your girlfriends vagina has some issues... "...the depth from the vaginal opening to the tip of the cervix is 3 to 4 inches when they are not sexually aroused." "Other women may have a vaginal depth of five to seven inches. Regardless, during arousal, blood flows to the genital area, and sexual excitement causes the upper two-thirds of the vagina to lengthen by forcing the cervix and uterus to ascend." she have to be fully aroused before penetration occurs. If she's not aroused then sex can be uncomfortable. remember to take it slow because first time is the painful!!! oh by the way try her to be on top... maybe it would be easy... just kidding... good day... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConservativeM Posted May 4, 2013 Share Posted May 4, 2013 So far i could not understand the real cause of problem. If you have enough hardness in your penis and she has the lubrication in her vagina, this is a very smooth business. I do not think any special skill is required for this. It is more surprising because it is persisting since long time. It may be very frustrating for both of you.I could not understand why are you asking the feedback from your girlfriend regarding penetration. It must be visible very clearly - are you able to penetrate or not. I feel it is high time to visit to doctor. If it could have been any technique or skill problem, it could have been sorted by own by this time. I advice your girlfriend to consult gynaecologist without any hesitation - do not feel any thing wrong in this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Will757 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Share Posted June 6, 2013 Just wanted to say that in the past 10 days we have finally managed to get it to work! We are both ecstatic and really enjoying it. I just wanted to say thanks for all the help people have offered here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
countryview Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 This goes way back for me.. but my first time it took a lot of work and i actually bled a little from the breakage. Keep trying and use double fingers and lubrication. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueEagle Posted June 9, 2013 Share Posted June 9, 2013 Let her guide you in, especially if she is on top. Otherwise, it sounds like it is mental/psychological. If this has been ongoing for this long you probably will want to see a professional (i.e., a sex therapist). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lulabelle Posted August 24, 2013 Share Posted August 24, 2013 Hey, I know this was awhile ago, but this is pretty much the same problem we're having. I'm planning on seeing a gynocologist as soon as possible just to rule out anything monumentally important as far as my anatomy goes, but my boyfriend and I are both virgins, and are having Will's problem, both with staying hard and just getting tab A into slot B, basically. There's no pain mostly because entry just isn't happening - there's a lot of slipping and sliding and curving every direction away from center. Will, if you're still on here, I'm wondering what finally worked for you and your girlfriend? Was it more of a mental block, did it help more to talk through it or just play around, were there any different positions you used or variations thereof? Like I said, I'm seeing a doctor soon but I'd really prefer to make it happen soon Congrats to you and yours though that is great! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyNinja Posted August 24, 2013 Share Posted August 24, 2013 Post #54. He said they finally got it to work. Glad it worked out!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pankajc Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 I am having a similar problem. can you let me know what you did this time that made it work? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaks9977 Posted August 17, 2015 Share Posted August 17, 2015 Hi Will, I had a very similar problem,can you please advise on how you succeed? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted August 17, 2015 Share Posted August 17, 2015 This thread has run its course. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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