shackazu Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 You're right. My ex texted me for New Year's, and I replied and we exchanged a few texts, and this morning I realize that you're right. I shouldn't have replied, or should have just said simply, "You too." Keeping in touch isn't going to help me get her back, and it's not helping me at all. From now on this guy is doing things your way in 2013. Anyone else hear from their ex last night? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chensicool Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 No, and i didnt care about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
levie Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I guess we're in the process of reconciliation...I'd assume - we saw each other - had nice time - keeping in touch but not as much as when we were in relationship. He texted me affectionate - I did the same. Just one each. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lambert Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I didn't... I thought about him, as he was part of my last two NYEs but, I guess there's just nothing to say. If I talked to him, it wouldn't mean anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ggii Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 oooh I kept myself in control, but I'll probably text mine around january 8th when he has exams. No texts from exes, but that's because I changed my cellphone number. Also no FB messages. Forever Alone at its finest haha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Isolation28 Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I actually spent time with my ex for new years. I must say that my decision was the worst ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharky988 Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I got a long email last night, just apologizing again and saying he thought about me and missed having me in his life. I'm sure he wishes we could be platonic friends. There was nothing there about the woman he dumped me for, or the feelings we used to have for each other. It was pretty heartbreaking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
einsteins_girl Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I got a long email last night, just apologizing again and saying he thought about me and missed having me in his life. I'm sure he wishes we could be platonic friends. There was nothing there about the woman he dumped me for, or the feelings we used to have for each other. It was pretty heartbreaking. Wow. Are you going to reply? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharky988 Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Wow. Are you going to reply? All he wants from me is friendship, so what's the point? It hurts too much to have contact. He knows how I feel about him. If he wanted to get back together, he'd say so. He's just writing because he feels guilty for the way he treated me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hennie Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 NC for me. I told my ex Saturday that I couldn't be friends with her, that's it's too hard for me. So we both agreed to try NC for a few months. She's got a new girlfriend though, so I doubt NC with me even bothers her or matters. I, on the other hand, kept thinking of her last night and was wondering what she was doing and all that, and just wanted to die. My heart is just so heavy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
einsteins_girl Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 All he wants from me is friendship, so what's the point? It hurts too much to have contact. He knows how I feel about him. If he wanted to get back together, he'd say so. He's just writing because he feels guilty for the way he treated me. You're very wise not to inflict more pain on yourself. Hang in there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharky988 Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 You're very wise not to inflict more pain on yourself. Hang in there. Thank you : ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharky988 Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 NC for me. I told my ex Saturday that I couldn't be friends with her, that's it's too hard for me. So we both agreed to try NC for a few months. She's got a new girlfriend though, so I doubt NC with me even bothers her or matters. I, on the other hand, kept thinking of her last night and was wondering what she was doing and all that, and just wanted to die. My heart is just so heavy. I'm sure she was thinking of you, too, and missing you. Especially on a night like New Year's. Remember, the song goes: "Should Old Acquaintance be Forgot"..... not "Wooo-hooo New Girlfriends For Everyone" People look back on New Year's as much as they look forward. It's a melancholy night. Good for you for sticking to your NC!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dasilver Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Mine did...and he also told me he loved me...First time...Didn't even say it when we were together... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EssexMan Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I sent ex a simple Christmas card (she knows I send cards to lots and lots of people so it's not like a great honour), she texted "Thanks for the card and Merry Christmas", I texted "you're welcome, bah humbug", no further communication, and not bothered by it. Was slightly glad not to run into her around town on New Year's Eve though it wouldn't have ruined my evening. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snow93 Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 She texted me on Christmas saying Merry Christmas. I gave her one back and that was that pretty much. New Year's there was no contact at all. I don't mind too much. It's very true what you said though, sharky. NYE is a very melancholy sort of night. I did think back about her when the new year was being brought in, but it was more of a bittersweet note. I haven't forgotten the good times we shared and I'll always be grateful for the happy memories I created with her in 2012 but I have to acknowledge that that's all they are now. Can't dwell. I know there'll be days when I feel terrible again but I'm slowly coming to terms with that fact. I'm sure she thought of me at New years too. We spent it together for the past few years (as "together" as we could be in an LDR). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
einsteins_girl Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Mine did...and he also told me he loved me...First time...Didn't even say it when we were together... Then what? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2bcome1 Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 No she didn't txt and i'm glad as she would of spoilt the awsome night i had. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dasilver Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Then what? Then nothing... I'm with someone now... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
einsteins_girl Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Then nothing... I'm with someone now... Oh, I remember you posting back after your BU. Didn't realize you were with someone new now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teebz Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Nope. Still doing NC, he knows about this and isn't very happy about it, but tough luck! My birthday is coming up in a few days and I don't think I'll be hearing anything then as well. Anything I would hear from him now would be like hearing from a ghost.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yellowaura Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Oh I had to see mine moments before he was on his way for a big night out due to a emergency house problem. We argued. Told him enough is enough and we aren't friends. End of. I'm either in his life as a partner or not at all. He started to get upset then got angry and I told him bye. He still texted happy new year. I didnt reply. He's not my friend and he's acting like a child. Never been blunt with him since BU but a few home truths were vocalised around his abandoned family and money. Something hit home because he spoke to ALL his family shortly after. Oh well. happy new year!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pettypink Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 I accidentally broadcast messaged him (along with all of my contacts) and he replied back and initiated a conversation. I was pretty bubbly, although I think I pushed it a bit. He asked a few questions about my new years and we talked for about an hour over text. He then said he'd make sure he has fun this semester (as he was complaining about school ending in April before). He doesn't sound any different from when we talked in October...still a little distant. He seemed warmer in December than he does now (whut). But whatever, I'm trying to be positive and just focus on myself and school/extracurriculars this term. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Isolation28 Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Nice! we are in the same boat! My ex didn't even text me "Happy New Years" at all though =P oh well, I had a good day today though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shane Falco Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Sorry it didn't go the way you wanted it to shack. I definitely wanted you to be right and me to be wrong in this case. Hopefully some separation from contact will move you in the right direction, be it with her or with someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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