I'm about to confront and leave a cheating boyfriend... and after some support.

[myonlymotive]

Hey,

 

Not much to say on this thread aside from I've caught him cheating. We've been friends for a couple of years and only dating a few months. This hurts. I would love to find an excuse to stay together but I feel so insecure and betrayed that I'm not sure I can trust him again (and what's a relationship without trust?) so my feelings on it are fairly done and dusted.

 

I'm about to confront him about it, with solid evidence, in about 2-3 hours. I guess all I'm looking for is a little bit of support, maybe a 'go get 'em girl'.

 

If you chose to comment, thanks for helping me through this It's been rough.

[markie6]

I would love to find an excuse to stay together

 

Sorry you're having to go through this....

[sharky988]

Ouch, I've been there.

 

You're absolutely right not to put up with that! At least you found out early on that this is not the one for you.

 

Good luck to you and please let us know how it goes. In my experience, it took the most undeniable in-your-face evidence for a cheater to admit anything, and even then he was very squirrely about it and still tried to make it seem that I was imagining things...... stay strong and don't let him make you question what you know to be true!

[myonlymotive]

Thank you guys! Yeah I'm terrified that I'm just going to back down but... I keep telling myself what I know to be true and hopefully I can stand up to him once I'm there. Man.. this is all so nerve wrecking. I've cried a bit but. I think I'm ready (well, as ready as I can be)

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Be prepared for any number of reactions from him: denial, blaming you, promises to never do it again. Stay strong and don't give in otherwise you will end up staying with someone who will likely continue to cheat on you.

[traveller]

That is ****! people who cheat are just a waste of your time and energy. AND they never change! I would be livid, I hate cheaters because i could never do it to anyone myself. Good luck, sock it him and then move on xx

[myonlymotive]

He denied it, I cried, he kept denying it and I yelled and he continued to deny it. I told him I was just going to walk straight out the door and he begged me not to.. but I did it hurts more than anything but I know what I did was the right thing. Thanks for all your support

[HeartGoesOn]

Good for you!

 

Staying with him would be equal to giving him permission to cheat on you repeatedly.

[metrogirl]

It's so stupid when they deny it when there is solid evidence to back it up.

 

Glad you dumped him. DON'T TAKE HIM BACK

[MizzGee]

Ugh, it's bad that he cheated, but to be such a coward as to deny it when you have solid evidence? Good riddance, he doesn't even sound like a man. I'm sorry you had to go through this.

[Elektra22]

Good for you Myonly. I wish to God I had had the strength to walk away from my ex when I caught him cheating (my situation was a little bit different he was emotionally, but not physically cheating it still hurt like hell though). He did the crying, begging, pleading bit where he swore up & down never to do it again and promised to make it up to me and I stupidly gave him another chance. One of the biggest mistakes of my life because he just got me to fall more in love with him in the long run and it hurt even worse when we broke up later on. I should have trusted my instincts and left him after his first betrayal & never looked back you are so strong for doing this it's very courageous of you. I wish you the very best and I hope you find happiness and a man that truly loves you and is completely loyal. Hugs and stay strong!

[Amandacast57]

How did you know he was cheating?

[lalalollipops]

You were so strong, I wanted to end it the first two times too, but when they emotionally manipulate you, guilt trip and lie and deny on top of things it gets harder. Hope you stay away from him for good! You're amazing.

[Kaytie]

So glad you did it. Good for you! Now please - cut contact and do not entertain the idea of taking him back. Cheaters are cowards and not admitting to it when caught is even more cowardly.