reflex Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 iv just found out my ex is in hospital with menajitis. i feel so bad b/c the last time i spoke to her was on sunday. i was not very nice to her on the phone b/c iv had a really bad week. (we are still good friends and talk all the time) well just say we both but the phone down with out saying good bye. that was the last time iv spoken to her. im blaming myself 4 whats has happened. i just wish i was nice to her on the phone or even txts her in the week. i dont no if i should sent a card or even flowers. if i do send a card what should i put in it. any help wood really good thanx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guy40az Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 If you are good friends with her and you talk a lot then I would send her a card or flowers I think she would really be hurt if you didn't Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vert Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 I would think you should send a card and flowers (make sure its a "get well" flower arrangement and not a love or anything else) regardless of whether or not you're on good terms. It's just the right thing to do if she's in the hospital with an illness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stomacstress Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 I agree with Vert, especially since the two of you are still good friends. Flowers which say "get well" is perfect. You could also visit her... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bzborow1 Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 Or you could stop by the hospital for a few mins, drop your gifts off, etc... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
under_the_pressure Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 You should definitly send a card. And flowers too. Because like everyone else said, even though you two are on bad terms, she is in the hospital. I think you should stop by too. under* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vert Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 Stopping by would also be the honorable thing to do, but just be careful. If she has multiple IV's and other tubes feeding into her, then it could give you severe emotional distress on top of any feelings you might have for her. You have to be ready to face that. If you think you can't, then you should send flowers and wait until she is sent home to come visit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scout Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 I think you should take the flowers yourself to the hospital. And i'm sorry to hear this news, hope she has a speedy recovery. Don't blame yourself for this (but remember in the future not to take stuff out on people because you are having a bad week Best wishes, Scout Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meow18 Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 I agree with everyone else. Get her a card & flowers & take them to her yourself. It will show her that you really do care about her. She probably thinks you are mad at her, so visiting her will probably make things a lot better. Just get her a get well card. Maybe put in it that you hope she gets well soon & that you are sorry if you hurt her & that you really care about her. Its not your fault she's there, so don't think that. People do get sick. The best thing you can do right now is show her you care about her. Thats what will make her feel the best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarterJonas Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 I think you now know what to do so best of luck. Just go to the hospital as a friend, leave the 'getting back together' talk until she is better, if this is what you want. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reflex Posted September 24, 2004 Author Share Posted September 24, 2004 thanx everyone for your advice. she lives about 200 miles away. so it may be bit hard to visit her. (this week has not been good as 2 of my colleges at work got shot over the weekend. i was really stress about it and taking out on her) lets hope she get better and i'll visit her when she is at home as im sure her family will be there and i dont wont to be in the way once again thanx 4 your adive everyone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shereen Posted September 24, 2004 Share Posted September 24, 2004 i agree with bzborow1 you should stop by the hospital and give her the flowers and try to be kind and nice with her and try not to talk about any thing else.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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