trustno1 Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Pretty frustrating at this point....I think we have a good thing going on....so she asked me to stay with her...I have my own place and stay there too but am with her more..... she has mentioned alot recently that I should speand more time at my place, so I brought it up in a calm conversation asking her if you need space just say so...then she always says that she loves having me there. So I am confused and starting to get frustrated because its either or and yes I always want to please her and make sure she is happy and ok but I feel like a yo yo right now. I don't know what to do next....my gut is telling me to just stay at my place until she figures out if she really is serious about me.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guynextdoor Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Everybody needs space man even though she might say she wants to spend every minute possible with you. Cut back a little, gives her the opportunity to miss you and really want to see you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Galaxo Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Whichever makes you happy. "yes I always want to please her and make sure she is happy and ok" is a problem unless you are happy as well and ok as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 If she's mentioned it a lot lately, you should really listen. You asking if she needs space --- kind of redundant. That's what she's been trying to tell you. The "I always want to please her and ....."" makes it sound like you may be giving too much --- and it's not always taken as comforting. Sometimes it feels confining. Try spending more time alone a your place or out w/ friends. Give the relationship a little breathing room. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trustno1 Posted December 2, 2011 Author Share Posted December 2, 2011 thanks for that....so we had a really cool talk and I let her know that I understand how she feels, she honestly told that she doesn't want me to go anywhere...I let her know that I am fine with whatever she chooses....I am happy at my place when I have my solo time and when I with her also. so I feel things with her will work...I know she wants to get serious with me and I am ready for it....i appreciate your comment Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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