Fat girl Flying 1500 miles to meet hot man. HELP

[OptomisticGirl]

I am a very good read on people and I had no weird vibes from the great on paper/excellent catch guy who I met through a personal ad and who ended up sexually harassing/assualting me (on our second date) and several of my friends over the years. Nothing substitutes for getting to know someone over a period of time.

 

In fairness, even those you know over a period of time can still turn out to be creeps/abusers.

[Batya33]

In fairness, even those you know over a period of time can still turn out to be creeps/abusers.

Of course- there are no guarantees -just managing the risk. What this woman is planning to do is on the extreme end of dangerous.

[OptomisticGirl]

Of course- there are no guarantees -just managing the risk. What this woman is planning to do is on the extreme end of dangerous.

 

To a vast majority (myself even though I did it as well), yes. But to me women who walk by themselves at night are on the extreme end of dangerous - not to many, and certainly not to the women who do it - but to ME it is very dangerous. I never would. I walk out from work every night with pepper spray in one hand and on the phone with my mom - most people don't go to that extreme to manage THAT particular risk.

[Batya33]

To a vast majority (myself even though I did it as well), yes. But to me women who walk by themselves at night are on the extreme end of dangerous - not to many, and certainly not to the women who do it - but to ME it is very dangerous. I never would. I walk out from work every night with pepper spray in one hand and on the phone with my mom - most people don't go to that extreme to manage THAT particular risk.

 

To me that depends on the neighborhood and circumstances -is the woman sober? What time of night? Is it a crowded street? Obviously everyone has different boundaries and comfort zones but what is generally true are the many many factual and true articles, books, you name it on what can happen when a woman goes to a private location with a man she has just met. The OP is choosing to ignore that and instead to be dazzled by a trip to Vegas and the promise of sex with a well-endowed man (assuming he has sent her an accurate photo -I doubt it, or it might be a photo of one of the people who might be joining them at the hotel room).

[OptomisticGirl]

To me that depends on the neighborhood and circumstances -is the woman sober? What time of night? Is it a crowded street? Obviously everyone has different boundaries and comfort zones but what is generally true are the many many factual and true articles, books, you name it on what can happen when a woman goes to a private location with a man she has just met. The OP is choosing to ignore that and instead to be dazzled by a trip to Vegas and the promise of sex with a well-endowed man (assuming he has sent her an accurate photo -I doubt it, or it might be a photo of one of the people who might be joining them at the hotel room).

 

See to me, it doesn't depend on ANYTHING. If it's night, I don't walk by myself. Doesn't matter if it's the nicest neighborhood, just getting dark, most crowded street America, or I'm stone cold sober - in all the good scenarios, bad things can still happen. Kids are snatched in broad daylight in malls surrounded by people, I even watched a show about a woman who was snatched while jogging and a couple were feet away and never knew. I'm vigilant about my safety but I also know no matter how vigilant I am, there could always be someone out there smarter than I am vigilant. Just as you can know someone for years and find out they are someone completely different - look at BTK who fooled not only an entire community but his own WIFE for how many years?

 

I'm not saying what she is doing (or what I did, in fact) isn't suptid or careless. In many regards it is. But you CAN meet someone online and be vigilant and safe about your safety. Now I haven't read through the whole thread on what she plans to do in Vegas and such and what her safety plans are, but I know what mine were in the event things went bad with L. But to me your as just as much risk in the daytime as you are at night - to many you aren't, but to me I see no difference in the level of vigilance I give my safety.

[AmandaB]

I dont know why there are so many posts on Vegas being so dangerous, I managed to live there for 10 years and made it out ok, lol. Yes there is a ton of alcohol around but there is anywhere you go these days. Vegas may even be a tad bit safer than some random american city that doesnt have the security that vegas does. There is security everywhere in the reputable hotel and casino and there is always a police presence on the strip. Not to mention security cameras EVERYWHERE. The only place i would worry about is once the OP steps into the hotel room, then she is on her own.

[Scared21]

To me that depends on the neighborhood and circumstances -is the woman sober? What time of night? Is it a crowded street? Obviously everyone has different boundaries and comfort zones but what is generally true are the many many factual and true articles, books, you name it on what can happen when a woman goes to a private location with a man she has just met. The OP is choosing to ignore that and instead to be dazzled by a trip to Vegas and the promise of sex with a well-endowed man (assuming he has sent her an accurate photo -I doubt it, or it might be a photo of one of the people who might be joining them at the hotel room).

 

1. I havent "just met" this man, i have gotten to know him for TWO years of constant contact before we ever made arrangements to meet.

2. I am not "dazzled" by Vegas. Its just a location where we found a great deal in a great hotel. We would have gone anywhere if the price was ok.

3. As for his penis size that you have mention many times, I watched him measure it myself on webcam.

4. and if he has someone "joining us in the hotel room" Could i be so lucky? lol

[HeartGoesOn]

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