StrwberryWine Posted November 16, 2011 Author Share Posted November 16, 2011 holipoli: lol! I don't know what he expected when he texted me but I don't think this was it If he really wants to be in contact he is going to have to try harder. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StrwberryWine Posted November 16, 2011 Author Share Posted November 16, 2011 MrMan: I wish I were distant enough from the situation to answer as you suggested. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoliPoli Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 Ugh, you know as hard as I tried and swore I wouldn't analyze the texts he sent yesterday I can't help but do it. And yes it's driving me crazy even though I deleted them. He said it was welcomed and nice hearing from me the other day (last time I broke NC) and that it would be great if we continued the convo at a later date (we didn't talk long.) I have myself convinced hes f'ing with my head and not to fall for it. Anywho I gotta just let this go. I wont be with anyone who can't respect me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoliPoli Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 Oh crap lol. I wrote this in the wrong thread! Oh well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
winniethepooh Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 Suddenly he texts, "I was cleaning out my wallet and I found the card we had for the co-op, it made me think of you and I'm wondering how you're doing?" It's not even a proper question. He's giving you information about himself, he's not asking you how you are. Assuming he left you, and given that you have initiated some contact in the past, I would not respond. You are not being a btch by doing that, you are respecting his desire to walk away from the relationship. Don't think of it as a power struggle. Think of it as energy flow. Right now you need to keep all your energy for yourself to heal. If you reply, you are giving him some of your energy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
winniethepooh Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 I ended up saying 'I'm great, thanks' Ah, ok, I didn't see this before I posted previously. No matter. Don't reply any more if he sends you another news bulletin about his wallet, and consider carefully what to say if he does ask a proper question. Get more opinions from ENA first Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Man Who Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 To be honest I just simply wouldn't of replied - why? Because if they truly wanted to see how you were they would more than likely send a follow up text or two after that, even if you hadn't replied if he truly cared about you he would send more than one "breadcrumb" text. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StrwberryWine Posted November 17, 2011 Author Share Posted November 17, 2011 As I expected, there has been no followup from him. I feel pretty good about my decision to respond as I did. As much as I would've liked to have not responded, I didn't feel it was the right thing to do. He was the one who broke up with me but he has been courteous enough to always respond to the texts I sent initially after the breakup. I just couldn't bring myself to completely ignore the guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 To answer the original question: how do you ignore a text from the ex. By ignoring it, completely. Do you want to respond to meaningless texts --- and by meaningless, I mean: how are you, what are you doing, did you see the movie. Come on. They broke up with you. Are they now allowed a window into your life at THEIR convenience? At least make 'em call you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SFaist Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 I wished I never replied my breadcrumbs! It was the usual "R U ok?" My answer was only "Yes" This after 5 days after he tells me he doesn't want to see me. We've been seperated since the end of August. All was ok. Would have dinner ocassionally, etc. Got along ok, etc. Then after I asked when I would see him again. I get a "Don't know" message! Then the phone call about how he doesn't want to see me and that it would be better for him if he didn't see me! WTH?? It's killing me not saying anything. I have not heard from him since! I thought after 7 years, I would at least hear from him over Thanksgiving....but got nothing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KYRiverGrl Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 The last time ex texted me was last week the day before Thanksgiving. He wished me happy Thanksgiving. I did reply and we texted for about half an hour or so ... but I do not wish to respond to any more texts from him from now on. The texts he sends are meaningless anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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